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Hebrews 13:4 Marital Fidelity, a Multi-Facetted Trait of Character

Posted by Job on March 29, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION: “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT: I’m continually amazed at the apathetic responses to surveys where people are asked, “Does it make any difference to you whether a candidate is faithful to his wife or not?” Or, “Would you vote for a man that was unfaithful to his wife?” And they say, “It doesn’t matter.” Well friend, it makes a difference to me, and more importantly, it makes a difference to God. When couples break solemn vows — unless they repent with every ounce of their hearts — trust is broken. Put it down big, plain, and straight: People who treat sex lightly will treat other people lightly.

ACTION POINT: Are you married? Find some time today to express to your spouse your love and faithful commitment to him or her.  share devotional with a friend     visit lwf.org

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God’s Best is Your Purity 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

Posted by Job on March 28, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION: “. . . it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT: Premarital sex always endangers future marital happiness. It follows as night follows day. Surveys have shown that those who were sexually pure when they went to the marriage altar have the greatest opportunity to have a happy marriage. You can understand why. Suppose a man says to a woman “I love you so much; I just can’t wait.” He talks her into giving in to his desires. Now think about a man who loves and respects a woman by keeping her pure. Do you see the trust that that builds? God has a wonderful plan for you. Sex is so bad outside marriage because it’s so good inside marriage.

ACTION POINT: Are you single? Take courage from knowing God’s best is your purity. Though it may be hard to wait, God will honor your obedience.  share devotional with a friend    visit lwf.org

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Casting Our Burdens at His Feet Psalm 55:22

Posted by Job on March 22, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION: “Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain thee: He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.” Psalm 55:22

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT: I read about a man who had a very fine dog who loved the water. One day the dog was playing in the lake, and the man decided to leave. He called the dog, but the dog wouldn’t come. He called him several times; still he wouldn’t come. It was a well-trained dog, but he just would not come. The man finally threw a stick out in the water. When the dog saw it, he swam over, got the stick, and came back and laid it at his master’s feet. It just may be that God has given you a burden because He can’t get your attention. He wants you to come and lay it at your Master’s feet.

ACTION POINT: Is your heart aching today? Cast your burden at His feet and allow His peace to fill your heart.  share devotional with a friend visit lwf.org

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Love Your Wife As Jesus Christ Loved The Church Ephesians 5:25

Posted by Job on March 22, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION: “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it.” Ephesians 5:25

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT: A little boy was looking through the family picture album, and he came to a picture of his mother when she was a young lady. It was taken just after his parents had gotten married. The boy asked his father, “Is that when Mother came to work for us?” Does this ring true in your home? Let me set the record straight. The husband, if he loves his wife as Christ loves the church, is going to love his wife sacrificially. He is going to love her in such a way that he would be willing to lay down his life for her. He’s going to protect her. He’s going to provide for her. He’s going to do what he can to present his wife and family as holy vessels for the Lord’s use.

ACTION POINT: Are you married? Then how are you doing on the sacrificial quotient of giving to your spouse? If you had to, would you be willing to lay down your life for your spouse?  share devotional with a friend    visit lwf.org

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JAMES DOBSON ENDORSES MORMON MITT ROMNEY!

Posted by Job on February 6, 2008

I first saw this here but it was confirmed in this devotional as well. Man oh man, I love this election season. So many prominent Christian leaders in the limelight are being exposed for what they are. From the people backing Huckabee despite knowing his connections to the Council on Foreign Relations and to apostates like Kenneth Copeland and John Hagee to Pat Robertson backing Giuliani to the MANY evangelicals and even some fundamentalists backing Mormon Mitt Romney to Donnie McClurkin and many other leading black Christians backing Barack HUSSEIN Obama (here, here, here, here, here, here) well the Lord is exposing for the whole world to see what these prominent Christians are really about and after – the things of this world.Christians, is this the falling away of the American church? If so, make sure that you are not part of that falling away. In a sense, things have been this bad for quite awhile, because the fact that Martin Luther King, Jr. was no better than a Mormon because he did not believe in the deity or resurrection of Jesus Christ despite it being commonly reported … so many people do not know because they do not care to know. And never forget: King’s rise was due to so many alleged Christians, many of them evangelicals and fundamentalists, supporting segregation and racism! Still, I regularly ask some older (than me) Christians have things always been this bad, and even the ones that personally experienced segregation and poverty say without hesitation “No, it wasn’t.”

***DR. DOBSON AND RUSH LIMBAUGH ARE THE LATEST TO JOIN THE “JUDAS GALLERY” !!! WWW.VOTINGFORSATAN.COM IS ONLINE!!! I’ve launched this new website — www.votingforsatan.com — not to tell people who to or not to vote for, but to help educate people on what Mormon’s really believe and hold accountable high-profile Christians who have endorsed cult member Romney’s bid for
the Presidency. The new site features an interactive section with
polls and a great message board where you can post your thoughts and
comments, news notes on the race for the White House, my numerous
Devotionals on Romney and the Mormon church, in-depth writings by an
ex-Mormon that clearly lay out the beliefs and theology of Mormonism,
as well as special videos including the TV program I did in the magical
Mormon underwear worn 24/7 by high level Mormons. Please check it out
and help me by telling everyone you know about this new site, and post
it on every message board and chat room you can find, especially the
sites that cater to politics.

“The word of the LORD came to me: “Son of man, prophesy against the
shepherds of Israel; prophesy and say to them: ‘This is what the Sovereign
LORD says: Woe to the shepherds of Israel who only take care of themselves!
Should not shepherds take care of the flock? You eat the curds, clothe
yourselves with the wool and slaughter the choice animals, but you do not
take care of the flock. You have not strengthened the weak or healed the
sick or bound up the injured. You have not brought back the strays or
searched for the lost. You have ruled them harshly and brutally. So they
were scattered because there was no shepherd, and when they were scattered
they became food for all the wild animals. My sheep wandered over all the
mountains and on every high hill. They were scattered over the whole earth,
and no one searched or looked for them.” Ezekiel 34:1-6

A sad commentary on so many pastors and Christian leaders right from God’s
Word. Last week I was doing some study in the Book of Ezekiel. In reading
through some passages, I came across these first 6 verses in Ezekiel 34. As
I read these words, I could only think that this was the sad description of
so many pastors and Christian leaders today. 50 years ago, you could sit in
the pew of most any church of any denomination and hear the Truth of God’s
Word. Those pastors and the men and women God raised up on the national
scene were men and women who would never compromise the Truth of the Bible
and understood their only mission was to bring the lost to Christ.

Fast forward to the year 2008 and you have entire denominations of pastors
who don’t even preach, teach or believe the Bible. It is questionable if
many pastors were ever “called” and are even saved. Those who have risen up
into national prominence are more worried about selling books, having the
newest private jet, building bigger buildings, and living like the rulers of
small nations rather than preaching the unadulterated Truth of the Bible and
leading the lost to faith in Jesus Christ. My goodness, you now have
so-called Christian leaders who are endorsing and working for the member of
a satanic cult to become our next President!!!

When these are the men and women leading the people, why are we surprised
that many who sit in the pews of the nations churches on Sunday aren’t even
saved, don’t accept the Bible as Absolute Truth and our only authority, and
the majority of the ones who do lead weak and ineffective lives. That is
why I encourage people all the time to seek out a pastor who is a true
shepherd. That is increasingly difficult today, but there are still many
men of God who have not bowed their knee to Baal and are not the shepherds
described in Ezekiel 34. Sunday is the day most Christians go to church. It
is the only time most of you ever see your pastor, and that is usually from
your seat in the sanctuary as he leads the worship service and preaches the
message.

Having preached in over 500 churches of every denomination nationwide, I can
honestly tell you that for most pastors, Sunday morning is their favorite
day of the week and the one day they usually feel their work for God really
has some meaning. You can never know the pressure most pastors are under. If
it was only getting up on Sunday morning and being the “man of God” it would
be wonderful, but that is not reality. It is a 7-day a week, 24-hour a day
calling. Many have outside jobs. There is the constant pressures of raising
the budget, dealing with the interpersonal problems that always exist when
you have a group of people, overseeing the political infighting that often
occurs, on top of the spiritual requirements of shepherding the flock,
having an anointed word each week for the various services, and other
requirements the office of pastor carries with it.

My prayer for you today is to support your pastor. Pray for your pastor each
day. John 10 gives us the picture of the ideal pastor. Pray that your pastor
will be able to tear away from the distractions of this world to be the
shepherd described in John 10. God has placed that pastor in your life to
guide you, spiritually nurture you, and have spiritual leadership over your
life. Do all you can to show your love and appreciation for all your pastor
does for you, most of which you may not even recognize. Also, God has placed
your pastor in your life for spiritual leadership. When you come into times
of crisis, don’t hesitate to go to your pastor. That is ultimately why they
are there, to help you and guide you through those difficult times in your
life.

I love you and care about you so much. I pray for you daily. Sadly, today
there are too many pastors and Christian leaders who fall into the
description found in Ezekiel 34. It makes the work that much more difficult
when you have people running around calling themselves Christians, but
supporting sins like abortion, homosexuality, the destruction of God’s plan
fo the family. You have others who think there is nothing wrong with
belonging to a cult or false religions and they have bought the
universalistic lie from hell that everyone will get to Heaven.

Let this message today be a remember to lift up your pastor in prayer and
recognize him for all he does for your life. God has called His sheep to be
obedient and obey those in spiritual authority. Take inventory and see if
you are fulfilling this admonition, and ask God to help you. He loves you so
much, that he has placed your pastor in your life to shepherd you and guide
you in your spiritual journey. Show your love for Him today by praying for
and supporting your pastor.

In His love and service,
Your friend and brother in Christ,
Bill Keller bkeller@liveprayer.com

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die one day. At that moment, you will either spend eternity with the Lord or
be cast into everlasting darkness forever separated from God your creator.
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Beware Office Romances!

Posted by Job on January 17, 2008

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(1 Corinthians 6:9; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5)

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I know from the emails I received when I dealt with this issue in the past,
there are many people dreading this message today. There are no accidents or
coincidences with God. If you work, you MUST read these words today. If you
are currently involved in an office romance, this is God speaking directly
to YOU! If you are not involved in an office romance, it is still a word you
need to read since most office romances are not planned, they evolve. There
are so many facets of this issue that I could probably write on this one
topic for a solid week. However, today I want to try and highlight this trap
of satan and help you get out of the fantasies you may currently be
harboring and help bring you back to reality before you destroy your life
and those around you.

Office romances is an issue that touches EVERYONE who is out working. We
love to hammer Hollywood stars like Brad Pitt for leaving his wife and
hooking up with Angelina Jolie on the set of a movie, but that is no
different than Tim in shipping who is married, hooking up with Julie in
accounting! When you talk about office romances, most people immediately
think of the older married male boss who is having an affair with his much
younger secretary. While that may be the classic office romance, office
romances encompass all romantic relationships that are born at work between
men and women (now of course men and men and women and women) who are
married or single. They happen in offices of all kinds, whether it be a
sales firm, a group of dentists, the headquarters for a trucking company,
your local McDonald’s, or yes, even the office at your church!

How these office romances begin is actually very easy to understand. You are
working 40, 50, sometimes more hours a week with this person. You share a
common bond in that you are both working for the same organization. It is
safe to say that you communicate on a mutual level with this person more
than anyone else in your life, including your spouse, family, and friends.
When you factor in the amount of time you spend with this person, the common
bond you share in working with the same organization, and extensive quality
communication, you have ALL the ingredients for a professional relationship
turning personal and even intimate no matter who you are or how honorable
your intentions may be.

So you can see immediately, even someone who has no plans, goals, or desires
for anything romantic to happen at work, all of the key elements exist for a
romantic relationship to begin. When you factor in the reality there are
many people who ARE looking for relationships at work, whether it is an
extra-marital affair, a causal relationship for sex, or even someone who is
looking for a spouse, it is no wonder why office romances have always been
and always will be a huge issue that anyone who works needs to be aware of
and guard against at all times.

One of the issues I have seen over nearly 2 decades of ministry is the huge
influx of women in the workforce since the mid ’60s. Most offices that used
to be dominated by men, are now filled with as many women as men, and having
women equally represented in the workforce has only increased the
opportunity and availability for these office romances to flourish. I am not
advocating women don’t work, since in this day we live where the roles of
men and women have become so confused, with the breakdown of such a high
percentage of marriages and families, most women have no choice but to work.
It is simply a fact that with the incredible surge of women in the workplace
over the past 40 years, this whole issue of office romances has become even
more pronounced.

By far the biggest problem in dealing with this issue and the most
destructive to so many lives is the married man or woman getting involved
with someone at work. We have already seen how easy it can happen. A married
person may spend 1 hour or less a day with their spouse, yet 6-10 hours a
day with the person they work with. They may actually have 30 minutes or
less of meaningful conversation with their spouse a day, yet engage in
quality conversation for hours a day with the person at work. The goals of
many husbands and wives are not clear, often even at odds with each other,
yet there is the common goal of the organization with the person they work
with.

*READ THE PREVIOUS PARAGRAPH AGAIN! READ IT SLOWLY. CAN YOU SEE HOW EASY IT
IS FOR SOMEONE WHO IS MARRIED TO FALL INTO THIS TRAP WITH SOMEONE THEY WORK
WITH?

I haven’t even addressed things like the person they work with is younger
and more attractive. At home all they do is fight over the things most
husbands and wives fight about but they find a sympathetic ear from the
person they work with. You and your spouse don’t have as much sex as you
used to and you begin to fantasize about being with the person you work
with. Your spouse doesn’t really understand you but the person you work with
always understands you perfectly. All of these issues come into play in
forming this fantasy in your mind involving the person you work with. *The
trap is it is a fantasy and NOT reality!

Of course, the nightmare begins when you start to turn your fantasy with the
person you work with into reality. It begins with lunches, dinners, all due
to business of course. Often it includes out of town business trips. Your
mind begins to work overtime in trying to create ways to spend time with
this person you work with, in trying to please that person, in trying to
impress that person. Pretty soon all of your heart and emotions are focused
on the person at work and you neglect your spouse even more than before,
cutting them off from the meaningful love and nurturing every relationship
must always have. Ending up in bed with the person you work with is simply
the physical act that occurs long after your heart and mind has been with
that other person for a long time.

WHAT I HAVE JUST DESCRIBED FOR YOU IS A TRAP FOR MEN AND WOMEN EQUALLY!!!
SATAN DOESN’T DISCRIMINATE WHEN IT COMES TO DESTROYING LIVES THROUGH OFFICE
ROMANCES!!!

Like in all adulterous affairs, NOBODY wins and everyone gets destroyed. Sin
NEVER brings blessings, only destruction. These office romances that take
off end up destroying marriages, families, careers, and many lives. They are
a trap from satan himself. We have to work, we have to work with other
people, so everyone has to be aware of how easy falling into one of these
office romances really is. They become a natural byproduct from working
every day with other people and developing a bond thru all the hours, all
the communication, and all the battles people in every organization have to
fight together. YOU CAN NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN, NEVER!

I love you and care about you so much. Obviously the most destructive office
romances involve people who are already married. That doesn’t automatically
make office romances between singles the best idea. As a matter of fact,
most companies have policies AGAINST employees dating. It is simply not a
healthy situation, but due to the factors I have shared with you, is
something that will always occur. Many people meet their spouse thru their
employment. The key is to treat it like any other relationship. Keep it
centered on Christ and build a spiritual foundation to your relationship.
What you do at work, having sex together, is NOT a solid foundation for any
relationship, only your faith in Christ is!

Let me talk to anyone today who is married and involved in an office
romance. STOP IT NOW BEFORE YOU DO ANY MORE DAMAGE TO YOUR LIFE AND THOSE
AROUND YOU! Satan has LIED to you! This is NOT going to work out, this is
not perfect like you have fantasized. How can sin ever be perfect? You need
to RUN like Joseph from Potiphar’s wife! Even if it means your job. Is your
job worth your marriage? You have fallen for satan’s trap and God is coming
to you today to help you get out now before you do any more destruction. CUT
IT OFF….REPENT….and GO BACK TO YOUR SPOUSE WHO YOU MADE VOWS TO BEFORE
GOD FOR A LIFE TOGETHER!

I’ll be praying for you today. Know that you ALWAYS need to be on guard.
Satan is roaming around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
That someone is you! Men, when the new 20-something girl in the short skirt
from accounts receivable starts telling you how good you look, how lucky
your wife is, how she hopes some day she can find someone like you, DON’T
BELIEVE HER!!! Put your ego in the closet with your coat, not your brain!
Women, when the married executive in the nice suits who always smells good
starts to tell you how hot you are, how lucky your boyfriend is, making
excuses to have business lunches with you, starts to buy you little
presents, how he can help your career, DON’T BELIEVE HIM!!! After he sleeps
with you he’ll act like he never even met you!

Please let this message today be a wake-up call. It is so easy to get lured
into these office romances. You are there to work, to earn a living, to
provide for your family, not to turn into a prepubescent teen discovering
their hormones for the first time! If you put as much time, energy, and
emotion into your spouse as you do the person you work with, you will be
shocked how great your marriage will be and how you won’t even consider
getting involved with someone you work with. Start romancing your wife or
husband. Spend TIME with them. COMMUNICATE with them. You don’t need to
fantasize about your spouse, they are the one God gave you to enjoy your
life with. Enjoy your marriage!

May the Lord give you His wisdom as He guards you from the enemy who wants
to destroy you. Nothing can turn your life upside down and destroy you
quicker than an office romance!

In His love and service,
Your friend and brother in Christ,
Bill Keller bkeller@liveprayer.com

***ARE YOU 100% CERTAIN WHERE YOU WILL SPEND ETERNITY?  The fact is you will
die one day.  At that moment, you will either spend eternity with the Lord or be cast into everlasting darkness forever separated from God your creator. To know for certain you will be forever with Jesus, go to:
http://www.liveprayer.com/bdy_salvatn.cfm

***The Liveprayer Daily Devotional is now available via AUDIO each day.  Simply go to http://www.liveprayer.com/Audio.cfm Also, you can now listen to the Daily Devotional by phone by calling 1-727-342-5673

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A Little Marriage Advice For Men

Posted by Job on January 13, 2008

From Ray Comfort’s blog. Someone once asked me the question “What’s the difference between
in-laws and outlaws?” The answer was that outlaws are wanted. I am
fortunate, because I have wonderful in-laws who love the Lord. Some
people don’t, and it’s a scary fact of life that a man doesn’t just
marry a wife, he marries her whole family, and he may therefore have a
life-time of rubbing shoulders with people he doesn’t like. The
unwanted in-laws problem can put a strain on any marriage, but as
Christians, the love of God in us can help solve the problem (Jesus
said to love our enemies). A lack of finances can be another strain. A
big one. So don’t let covetousness and credit cards pull you into debt.
Contentment is born out of thanksgiving, contentment is the enemy of
greed. If a burglar tries to break into your
house, don’t send your wife to the door. As a man, you could never do
that. So, don’t send your wife to the door spiritually. Take the lead.
Don’t let the thief who came to kill, steal and destroy, steal time
with your wife and destroy your marriage. You initiate prayer together.
You read the Scriptures with her daily. And here’s something else that
will help your marriage. It’s a principle that took me years to learn.
When your wife has a problem on her mind, just let her talk it out.
Don’t offer solutions. Zip it. I know it’s hard, but believe it or not,
she doesn’t want a solution. She just wants a listening ear. I know it
sounds strange, but we are talking about a different species here. Do
you like messing around in a women’s shoe store for hours? Nope. She
does. Do you like talking
while the TV is on? Nope. She does. Do you give every tiny detail about
a new born baby? She does. They are a different species. So deal with
it and just listen. It works. For further instruction about both men
and women, see, 101 Things That Husbands Do To Annoy Their Wives. Sue helped me write it in ten minutes.

Also see: Atheist Paranoia

Joshua S. Black, when addressing an atheist said, “For people who don’t
believe in God, you guys sure are paranoid about something!!” How true
that is. I have known many atheists, and I have found them to be
totally committed to their negative cause. They are zealots,
fanatics–who are serious, angry, hateful, and blasphemous towards
something they don’t believe in. And what’s more, they spend their time
gathering fuel for the fire of their hatred for God and those that love
Him. They gather what they think is legitimate fuel, whether it is
atrocities committed by hypocritical religions of history, or the
horrors of the Inquisition (the Catholic church torturing Christians
for their faith in Jesus). They even gather unintelligent and
unscientific material. It qualifies for use because it fits their
presuppositions. Any fuel will do, as long at it puts smoke between
them and the God they hate “without cause.” It was Jonathon Miller who
said, “In some awful, strange, paradoxical way, atheists tend to take
religion more seriously than the practitioners.” So, what is this
“something” about which they are so paranoid? It is the same
“something” that makes criminals paranoid, and it is that paranoia that
fuels criminals to have a deep-rooted hatred for the police. It’s not
the individual officer they hate; it’s what he stands for–civil law.
And that’s the root of the hatred that the atheist has for God and for
those that represent Him. Once again, the Bible has said this all
along. It hits the nail on its big and hard
head:
Romans 8:7: “. . . because the mind of the flesh [with its carnal
thoughts and purposes] is hostile to God, for it does not submit itself
to God’s Law; indeed it cannot” (Amplified Bible). They hate the
morality that God’s Law demands. That’s the fuel for their hostility.

Also see: Memory Bank

Can you recall your very first memory? Mine was as a four year-old in
kindergarten. We had to line up for a class photograph and as I was the
shortest, I was taken to the front and made to sit crossed legged
holding the class sign. I find the subject of memory banks incredibly
fascinating. In a second I can withdraw memoirs from the bank and
re-spend them. Smells, songs, or something I see can trigger a pleasant
or a painful memory. Of course, like so many things we take for
granted, the memory process is truly amazing. Think of a pleasant
memory. Perhaps it’s your house as a child. If you close your eyes and
concentrate enough, you can actually walk through the door of your old
house, into the kitchen, down the hall, into your bedroom and look at
things, all within the corridors of your
mind. There’s also a fearful side to this. The memory has also recorded
every sin we have ever committed. Yet, as a Christian I thank God that
He knows nothing about them. The Bible says that He has forgotten my
sins. However, there is the thought that if God is all-knowing, then He
will know exactly what He has forgotten. So the only way we can
reconcile His forgetting with His omniscience is to realize that He has
annihilated our sins, through the blood of Christ. They no longer
exist. Psalm 103:12 says, “As far as the east is from the west, so far
has he removed our transgressions from us.” They have been removed as
far as the east is from the west. That’s an infinite distance. If I am
at the South Pole and head north, I will eventually hit the North Pole.
But if I head towards the
east, I will never find the west. It’s in the opposite direction. So,
because of the cross the sins of those who trust in Jesus are at an
infinite distance from the mind of God. Praise the Lord for that. Now
there’s a massive understatement.

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Matthew 19:5 The Sweetheart of Your Life

Posted by Job on January 9, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION: “For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh.” Matthew 19:5

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT
: Today’s message is for the men…If you don’t love your wife now more than you loved her when you got married, you probably love her a lot less. Sir, I want you to learn to flirt — but not with any other woman — just with the girl you married! Keep that flirtation going through all of your life. Never call the waitress “sweetheart.”  She’s not your sweetheart. You have only one sweetheart. Never call someone else “dear.” She’s not your dear. There is one who needs to know beyond a shadow of any doubt that she is your sweetheart, she is your darling, and she is number one. Develop that love and keep it growing.

ACTION POINT
: Are you a husband or dating someone? Let me ask you a question, then. When was the last time you bought your wife or girlfriend flowers or her favorite perfume or wrote her a love note? Stop right now and think of how you’re going to show her that she’s the only sweetheart in your life! visit lwf.org

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Adrian Rogers: Loving Your Wife As Jesus Christ Loved The Church Ephesians 5:25

Posted by Job on January 6, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION:  “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it.” Ephesians 5:25

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT:  Do you know what most
marriages need? Two funerals and one wedding where both the husband and
the wife die to themselves and come alive to Jesus Christ. You see,
when a man loves his wife passionately, there’s nothing too precious
for that man to give up for his wife, except his relationship to
Almighty God. When there’s that kind of love shown to a woman, I dare
say the topic of submission wouldn’t be an issue. Most women don’t mind
submitting to a man who loves her enough to die for her and shows it by
the way he lives for her.

ACTION POINT:  Are you married? Then, go on a
date this week with your spouse.  Are you single? Pray that God would
prepare you to be the person your mate would need, but also pray that
God would make you the person He has uniquely designed you to be for
His purposes, married or single.visit lwf.org

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Adrian Rogers: The Role of Leader in the Home Ephesians 5:21 1 Corinthians 11:3

Posted by Job on January 6, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION:  “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” Ephesians 5:21

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT:  First Corinthians 11:3
says that “the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman
is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” Sometimes we get confused
about what it means to be the “head” of the family. Anything with no
head is dead and anything with two heads is abnormal. Just because the
man is the head doesn’t mean that the wife is inferior. Both men and
women bear the image of God. Both are heirs of the grace of life. Both
are equal before God. But while male and female are equal, God has
given them different roles. In the family, men have been given the role
of leader.

ACTION POINT:  How would our world function if
no one was in charge? How would your body function without your head?
Pray for leaders in your home, community, church, state, and nation. visit lwf.org

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Judge Not Lascivious Christianity: Karrine Steffans And Darius “Eddie Winslow” McCrary On Not Defiling The Bedroom

Posted by Job on December 19, 2007

Remember this feature anyone? Sex Sells Especially In The Church: Video Vixen Karrine Steffans Worships At The Church Of Judge Not? It was about the woman who excellently represents the TD Jakes/Eddie Long/Creflo Dollar/Noel Jones/Paul Crouch/Paula White/Joel Osteen/Juanita Bynum “it is all about me!” false Christianity. It appears that this woman Karrine Steffans, she who used to prostitute the image of her body in rap and R&B videos and then prostitute her actual body itself by committing fornication with various music and sports industry figures only to then go on to declare herself the new sort of Christian that follows a false Jesus Christ who requires no repentance, holiness, or righteousness but rather writes tell all books glorifying her past sinful exploits, peddles her own flesh to the corruption of many, and then demands not to be judged … well it seems that she has herself a husband. That husband would be actor Darius McCrary, most famous for Eddie Winslow of that Family Matters (Urkel) show from the 1990s.

Now this McCrary also professes to be a Christian. He even made a Christian movie starring Tia and Tamara Mowry to that effect (in addition to his other acting choices). But of what sort? Now of course, I shall not judge this man for marrying a woman with a bad past. I myself have my own personal history of sinful wickedness. But what about marrying a woman with A BAD PRESENT AND THEN PARTICIPATING IN IT YOURSELF? Look at this woman’s website www.karrine.com, why don’t you? She has not changed one bit. Not one bit, especially as you see how she, like gospel artist Tonex, curses less than 10 seconds into one of the videos that she has on the site. Another video, called “The Marital Bed”, is her and her “husband” lying in bed. In it McCrary also unleashes vulgar profanity. He also refuses to have his face shown, and when asks why, he speaks of “not defiling the marriage bed” and then starts making grotesque allusions to the sex acts that he and his wife performed earlier that morning and will resume later. It reminded me of how immodest and inappropriate so many members of this “Christian” celebrity culture are in presenting their wives and speaking of their marital activities.

So is this what Christianity has become? Vulgar profanity? Flesh peddling? Exhibitionism? Making a mockery of scripture? Obviously it is. Check out Rick Warren’s Lust Driven Evangelism for instance. People, stuff like this is why I BEGGED BlackCalvinist not to pull his Heresy Hunter The Phantom Teaching video. This false form of Christianity is becoming the dominant form: what everyone is seeing in stores and on TV, both secular and “Christian.” It is not enough to merely withdraw yourself from it. It is not enough merely to provide the right teaching. We also have to expose the wrong teachings and teachers and show how they damage people!

Now we know that Karrine Steffans has not changed. That does not mean that she will not change in the future. Maybe the Darius McCrary of today is not the same one that made the Something To Sing About movie (presented by Billy Graham by the way). If that is the case, then maybe he can go back to the true faith. All I know is that based on their current public face, what they are representing NOW is not real Christianity, and it is my job to tell you that.

Christians, I know that it is going to be hard, but we are just going to have to flee this Christian celebrity culture. We have to wed ourselves from it somehow. Gay Christian Movement Watch has an example of it in Patti Labelle’s black church partnership. LaBelle quite simply is a Jezebel with heretical beliefs (including her statements that it is the Christians that denounce homosexuality that are the sinners). Yet these are the places that she will visit on her “gospel tour” (secular artists frequently resort to the gospel industry when their secular careers are over like Coko of the notoriously explicit R&B group SWV, see this link of her performing at Eddie Long’s New Birth):

 

  • Potters House, Oct.7 Dallas, TX
  • St. Agnes, Oct. 13 Houston, TX
  • West Angeles COGIC, Oct. 27 Los Angeles, CA
  • House of Hope, Oct. 28 Chicago, IL
  • Deliverance Evangelist Church, Nov. 10 Philadelphia, PA
  • Christian Cultural Center, Nov. 17 Brooklyn, NY
  • Greater Grace, Dec. 1 Detroit, MI
  • Jerico City of Praise, Dec. 2 Landover, MD
  • New Birth Missionary Baptist Church, Dec. 6 Atlanta, GA
  • Faithful Central Bible Church (The Forum) Dec 16, Los Angeles, CA
  • The “gospel tour” of “churches” is SPONSORED BY CHRYSLER AUTOMOBILES. So yes, Christianity is now a product that you can package and sell just like your body. And some other members of Christianity Showbiz Inc. that joined this woman? Mary-Mary, Yolanda Adams, CeCe Winans, Soul Seekers, and J. Moss!

    We have to be vigilant, people, not only for ourselves but the other sheep in the flock. We may not be pastors personally directly responsible for a certain set of sheep, but as members of the Body of Christ we ALL have a communal shared responsibility for EACH OTHER: male, female, black, white, young, old, rich, poor, new and struggling in the faith, mature and strong meat eater, leader, follower, hot, cold, or lukewarm! Christians, I have to ask you one thing: who is on the Lord’s side? After that I must ask of you: what are you doing about it?

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    Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography Part II

    Posted by Job on December 17, 2007

    This is part I:  Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography

    Read Part 1. by Debi Pryde

    How Could He Do Such a Thing?

    Perhaps you are wondering, How do men or women get entrapped by something as vile and self-centered as pornography and masturbation or by any kind of sexual immorality, for that matter? How can a husband say he loves his wife and then engage in such raunchy behavior? Women who are faced with questions like these often feel deeply betrayed. As the impact of their husband’s sin presses on them, they usually vacillate between anger, insecurity, and sorrow. Trust is shattered, and fear quickly slides into its place. Because involvement with pornography isn’t usually understood or expected, women often struggle to grapple with the realities of such an enslaving habit. With good reason, it is a sin that causes a wife to feel strangely violated. Something or someone else has used what she believed was exclusively hers alone.

    To a woman who is reeling in the aftershock of discovering her husband’s vice, it seems senseless and incredibly stupid for him to risk losing everything that is dear in order to gratify sexual urges that are so base. Yet responding with disgust and bewilderment is the way most of us respond when we hear about someone who is enslaved to some devastating sin. We are surprised because we do not fully comprehend the power of sin or believe every person is vulnerable to being controlled by it.

    Women who are discouraged as they try to understand their husband’s slippery slide into moral failure should consider the sins they might be enslaved to—perhaps to sins that don’t have the same consequences or stigma that enslavement to pornography does. Is gossip a problem? Worry? Anger? Is there complete self-control with the things one buys? Is credit- card debt a battle? How about time management, time in prayer, and Bible study? Do you have any difficulties there? No matter who we are or how well we have managed to keep ourselves from the clutches of sin, we all still need to be exhorted to “lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us” (Heb. 12:1, KJV). Sin is incredibly deceptive, powerful, and tailor-made to easily exploit every person’s weakest link. One person’s besetting sin may not be another’s.

    It’s easy to see sexual sins as heinous when they don’t tempt us. But what about our own besetting sins? Have we made up our mind to flee from them only to be entrapped when our pet passions got the best of us once again? Have we asked for forgiveness again and again and still failed? If we are not careful, we can become just like the Pharisee who self-righteously told the Lord (who let us know the Pharisee prayed with himself), “God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican. I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess” (Luke 18:11-12). Whenever we, like the publican, derive our sense of being right with God from what we do or do not do, we become puffed up with pride, critical of others, unmerciful, and unforgiving. We can forget that God’s grace is no more grace if we deserve His forgiveness and righteousness. If we come to God in our own merit, we will find not approval but rejection.

    It isn’t uncommon for a woman betrayed by her husband’s immorality to become so prideful and self-righteous that she prays, but God refuses to listen. The Scriptures teach us that “God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble” (1 Pet. 5:5). At the same time, her husband, who sinned so grievously against her, might humbly acknowledge his sin and turn in repentance to God. He may discover that the Lord is ready to grant him full forgiveness and restoration of fellowship. What a strange twist—the betrayed wife behaves like the Pharisee while her husband acts like the publican, who ”standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner” (Luke 18:13). The sinning husband can be forgiven and restored even while his wife, who was sinned against, can be estranged from God. What a sobering reminder that none of us deserves God’s mercy or forgiveness. None of us can be forgiven because we deserve to be. Humility elicits God’s compassion and grace, but pride elicits His opposition completely. “I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted” (Luke 18:14). The truth is, all of us can be as enslaved to sin as the husband who is enslaved to pornography. And the path to victory for us is the same path of victory for him.

    What We Need

    In a nutshell, all sins that involve self-indulgence reflect the same spiritual lack of temperance or self-control. Scripture recognizes temperance as a byproduct or fruit of the Spirit, a characteristic of those who “walk in the Spirit.” One who exercises his own will and lives as he pleases is one who “walks after the flesh.” On the other hand, one who is able to restrain the sinful desires of his human nature and obediently chooses to do God’s will is one who “walks after the Spirit.” The Bible tells us in Galatians 5:16-17, “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust [sinful desires] of the flesh [human nature]. For the flesh lusteth [wars] against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” If the ability to do right and to resist wrong depends on one thing—walking in the Spirit—then learning what “walking in the Spirit” is should be of utmost importance to every believer. Of all the Christian men (including many pastors) who have been enslaved by sexual sin and of all the Christian women who have been enslaved by bitterness and slander, none can honestly dispute the practical truth of this passage of Scripture. Those who daily walk in the Spirit find all the strength and grace they need to withstand temptation and to do what is right. Those who do not walk in the Spirit do not. The flesh can never be trusted. The Lord Jesus Christ can.

    To “walk” refers to how we live and conduct our life. To “walk in the Spirit” is to depend upon and walk with the Lord in the same way God commanded Israel to walk with Him. “And now, Israel, what doth the LORD thy God require of thee, but to fear the LORD thy God, to walk in all his ways, and to love him, and to serve the LORD thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul” (Deut. 10:12). The blessings and benefits to those who choose to learn and do God’s commandments are spelled out throughout both the Old and New Testament. “Who is wise, and he shall understand these things? prudent, and he shall know them? for the ways of the LORD are right, and the just shall walk in them: but the transgressors shall fall therein” (Hosea 14:9). David understood that the power and ability to walk with God begin first with a decision of the will but also depend on trusting in God’s enabling grace and strength to do so. God alone enables us to walk in His ways. “Teach me [dependence] thy way, O LORD; I will [the will exercised] walk in thy truth: unite my heart to fear thy name” (Ps. 86:11).

    What both husband and wife need when faced with the aftermath of sexual sin is the Lord Jesus Christ Himself, for He alone is the only means through which a husband will conquer his sexual sin or a wife will conquer the temptation to give up or become bitter. This is a time when both need to grasp the fact that one’s spouse never could and never will be able to provide the kind of emotional satisfaction and fulfillment that can come only from a wholehearted relationship with Christ. Even the best marriage relationship can be filled with disillusionment and disappointment if our first love is not our Savior with whom we are united forever.

    What a miracle of God’s grace if your husband is experiencing true repentance and grappling with the realities of his sin. True repentance always brings true sorrow for sin. But whether your husband repents or not, you, the betrayed wife, desperately need to learn the practical lessons of walking with God, daily trusting Him, communing with Him, listening to Him, and depending on Him. He alone will never betray you, disappoint you, leave you, or cease loving you. At a time in your life when your hopes and dreams seem to be crumbling all around you, you have the privilege to flee to the Lord and to find in Him everything you need to face the challenges of each new day.

    Many saints will testify that some of the sweetest times with the Lord are when we are experiencing the depths of anguish and despair. But God does not leave us in the valley of sorrows. He walks beside us in the valley and sustains us through the darkest night, and then He leads us ever upward to sunny pastures, where we will once again delight in all of God’s loving provision. David testified of this blessing when he said, “I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD” (Ps. 27:13-14).

    Look up, dear sister, and don’t look within. Don’t focus your thoughts on your husband—look up, for that is from where your help and deliverance will come! David learned this same lesson and confidently told us,

    I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the LORD, which made heaven and earth. He will not suffer thy foot to be moved: he that keepeth thee will not slumber. Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. The LORD is thy keeper: the LORD is thy shade upon thy right hand. The sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night. The LORD shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul. The LORD shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore (Ps. 121:1-8).

    Debi Pryde has taught ladies’ Bible classes and spoken at retreats and seminars for the past 30 years. A certified biblical counselor, she is particularly burdened for women and for the problems they face in today’s world. She has published a variety of Bible studies and books, including Secrets of a Happy Heart, Happily Married, and Precept Upon Precept. She and her husband, Tom, are active members at Lighthouse Baptist Church (La Verne, CA). You can read more about Debi, about her ministry, and about her rose garden by visiting her website.

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    Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography

    Posted by Job on December 14, 2007

    From Sharper Iron: Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography

    by Debi Pryde

    You’ve made it through the initial discovery. You’ve made the decision to stay in your marriage and fight for it. You know life will never be the same again, but life does goes on. The routines of everyday living continue—work, school, grocery shopping, housework, cooking, answering the phone. You are going through the motions, and you are giving your best. But discouragement and sorrow might still be your constant companions. Perhaps you are looking back instead of looking forward, and you are still mourning over what you might still see as total loss.Remember, discouragement is always rooted in the way we think—the specific thoughts we center our attention on, the “what ifs” and “if onlys” that crowd out any hope or rays of light. Yes, you may know God’s promises, but they will bring no comfort if your heart refuses to be comforted. Your heart may continue to mourn as though sorrow will somehow soothe the deep wounds that are yet so tender and sore. Oh, dear sister, there is no comfort, no joy, no healing, and no hope in the deep abyss of morbid thoughts and fears.

    Would you take a moment to read these gentle reminders that can lead you out of the valley and into the light of day? As we have often sung,

    Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
    Look full in His wonderful face,
    And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
    In the light of His glory and grace.

    This truth doesn’t make sense to our human hearts, but the weapon that slays the enemy of discouragement is within our reach and within our power to pick up and use. We have the Holy Spirit Himself dwelling within us, and God wants us to be encouraged, comforted, and strengthened. The Bible assures us, “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Cor. 10:3-5, KJV). Will you summon inner courage by praying right now and asking God to walk with us a moment and to strengthen you as we face some of those tormenting monsters together and conquer them with God’s sword?

    Where in the World Did She Come from?

    Many women have described their husband’s bondage to pornography as adultery with a woman they cannot speak to or confront; after all, she lives on the pages of a magazine or a website. She is a phantom who steals the attentions and affections of their husbands and entices them to follow her far away from real life at home in a real world. This perpetually naked woman, who is airbrushed to perfection, feels no concern for the home she destroys, for the hearts she breaks, or for the men she lures into her pernicious trap. She smiles provocatively and demands nothing—or so it seems to the men who are mesmerized by her. Little do they know that they are following this woman like a cow to the slaughterhouse (Prov. 7:22), where death and horror quietly await them.

    This seemingly “harmless” fascination with a woman who never speaks or demands is, in reality, fascination with a woman who is leading a steady stream of men into a trap of the darkest and most sinister sort. While they are feasting on her delights, they are unaware that she is silently eroding their defenses and infiltrating every corner of their lives with only one intent—total destruction. A beautiful Trojan horse, she cares nothing for them and has no pity, though she destroys careers, marriages, homes, and—most precious of all—a man’s integrity, character, and relationship with God. Solomon warns about this woman. In Ecclesiastes 7:25, we read, “I applied mine heart to know, and to search, and to seek out wisdom, and the reason of things, and to know the wickedness of folly, even of foolishness and madness: And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares [traps] and nets, and her hands as bands [prison]: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.”

    Men who have been taken by the beauty of this licentious woman called “pornography” have far greater problems than a fascination with lewd photography. They have been hooked by the lure of illicit sexual arousal. Pornography has one goal—arousal and sexual release. Make no mistake about it—the pictures are the bait, not the hook. The hook that snares and entraps is the sexual high. It’s certainly enticing because it seems better than the euphoria of elicit drugs with none of the “side effects.” It’s perfectly legal, comes without exposure to sexually transmitted diseases, costs little, requires no self-sacrifice, and demands no emotional ties or investments of time. Apparently, no one is hurt, no one is physically violated, and no adultery is committed. The illusion is that this sexual high is the most perfect stress release and trouble-free recreation a man could engage in with so little cost and trouble. There’s only one problem—this sexual high completely ignores God.

    Men entrapped by the ritualistic habits of masturbation (self-sex) live as though sexual gratification were a sport rather than a sacred gift from God reserved for the intimacies of marriage. Masturbation disregards the one-flesh relationship of marriage characterized by physical union and mutual enjoyment. It exchanges the long-lasting delights of true intimacy and love with one’s spouse for a self-centered shortcut to momentary gratification that incrementally destroys a man’s ability to enjoy sex with his wife and to interact with her. It utterly destroys the mysterious spiritual bond that is established between a man and a woman who have come together in sexual union, and it ultimately grieves the Holy Spirit and alienates a man from his God. In the end, masturbation reduces a sacred act to lurid debauchery and hardens a man’s heart until he no longer hears the cries of his own wife or children—let alone the still-small voice of the Holy Spirit. High on the throne of his heart is his own insatiable lust, which rules his life with an all-encompassing tyrannical control.

    Lust does conquer and rule whoever lingers in its grasp. What may have begun with curiosity or an impulsive act during a time of stress quickly envelops and consumes a man until he no longer controls it—lust controls him. And sometimes lust goes beyond the pages of photographic images and morphs into a real woman who is willing to play the part and become a living fantasy. How in the world can this sin happen to a Christian man, and is there any hope for his rescue? Thankfully, God’s love, grace, and power can transform even men who have been corrupted by the utter blindness and deception of sexual vices. There is hope and more than that—hope for a better tomorrow.

    “What?” Paul asks incredulously, “know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication [any sexual immorality]. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body” (1 Cor. 6:16-18). Adultery is much more than physical intercourse between two living, breathing people. To understand why adulterous behavior by a spouse wreaks such internal havoc, one must understand that it is more than a simple physical act. Adultery includes any act that robs a marriage of intimacy that rightfully belongs to one’s marriage partner alone. God designed marriage, which is the intertwining of two people’s lives both physically and emotionally, to produce an exclusive and delightful bond of companionship.

    The sexual union is something God created for our enjoyment. Animals procreate to satisfy sexual urges, but people automatically engage their minds when they engage in sexual union. People are designed in such a way that they develop an emotional attachment to the object of their love and physical attachment. Emotional intimacy and physical intimacy cannot be separated—the two complement and feed each other. If someone sets his (or her) love on the delights of a harlot, he will become inextricably attached to the harlot. If one sets his love on the delights of his spouse, he will become attached to his spouse. If one sets his love on himself, he will become attached to his own self and be enveloped in self-gratification. When human beings violate the built-in plan God set in motion, they will always suffer excruciating consequences.

    A satisfying marriage relationship in which both partners are emotionally attached to each other can be compared to a glass of water that is completely filled. There’s no room for more water from another source—the glass is full. But when one or both partners begin investing their emotional and physical efforts in a third object of sexual attraction, the full glass of water begins slowly draining into another glass. Eventually, the once-full glass becomes a partially full glass of water and ultimately nothing more than a dry glass with nothing in it. Men and women in such a marriage sense that something is wrong with their marriage relationship. It is no longer satisfying or warm. They often wrongly conclude that they no longer love their spouse, or they believe all hope for the marriage is gone. What they do not recognize is that they themselves have stopped refilling the glass. They have poured themselves into another glass until their marriage glass has become empty. When both partners begin pouring themselves into each other and begin investing their attention and nurture into their own relationship, the “outside glass” becomes empty, and the marriage is once again full and satisfied.

    With this illustration fresh in your mind, go back to the beginning of this article and reread the description of a man entrapped in pornography. Then be sure to read Part Two on Monday.

    Debi Pryde has taught ladies’ Bible classes and spoken at retreats and seminars for the past 30 years. A certified biblical counselor, she is particularly burdened for women and for the problems they face in today’s world. She has published a variety of Bible studies and books, including Secrets of a Happy Heart, Happily Married, and Precept Upon Precept. She and her husband, Tom, are active members at Lighthouse Baptist Church (La Verne, CA). You can read more about Debi, about her ministry, and about her rose garden by visiting her website.

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