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How The Teachings Of Jesus Christ Destroy The Prosperity Doctrine

Posted by Job on September 20, 2010

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How the teachings of Jesus Christ render the prosperity doctrine as nothing but heresy. From Covenant Theological Seminary.


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Voddie Baucham: The Permanence View of Marriage

Posted by Job on November 20, 2009

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How Many Abortions Has The Iraq War Caused?

Posted by Job on March 31, 2008

This is in response to the debate that pops up from time to time which is a greater evil: abortion or the Iraq War. Now I personally feel abortion to be a greater evil. Still though, I hope to demonstrate with this line of thought why Christians should generally not be in the business of trying to discern lesser and greater evils. Ultimately, where does it get us? Pick one, and evil still wins! Now I do say this: someone who feels that the Iraq War is wrong (as I do) might say that from a Christian perspective, the Iraq War is more evil because it has the greater potential to deceive people. I cannot fathom how a born again Christian can support abortion, so anyone that is familiar with the Bible that supports mass murder of the innocent is fully aware of what they are doing. But it honestly does appear that a lot of good, honest, loving, decent Christians have been deceived by the Bush propaganda machine concerning this war.

Well … onto meat of the matter. How many women, wives and girlfriends, have terminated their pregnancies upon hearing that the fathers of their unborn children were killed in Iraq? Or perhaps not even killed, but injured to the point where it would severely impair his ability to provide for the child and the family?

How many daughters of men deployed in Iraq – or killed in Iraq – will go on to become pregnant out of wedlock due to the lack of the fatherly influence in this very critical, stressful time in their lives and terminate those pregnancies? In a similar fashion, how many sons of males deployed in Iraq will become sexually irresponsible and predatory and as a result sire children that will be aborted? And yes, how many women married to men overseas will become overwhelmed with loneliness, fright, financial pressures, etc. and resort to extramarital affairs, become impregnated, and then terminate those pregnancies in an attempt to hide their unfaithfulness and preserve the marriage?

Of course, I am aware that any number of abortions that can directly or indirectly be attributed to this war is a very tiny fraction of the overall number. But since when are pro – life Christians, who are supposed to be governed by the principle of scripture, comfortable with writing off the lives of the innocent unborn because of small numbers? I suppose, then, that it would be more helpful to attribute the 5,000 or 500 or 50 or 5 unborn children that owed their cruel fate to the war as mere innocent casualties of it just like so many Iraqis.

And then, it is not just abortion. Lots of suicides and divorces – things that pro – life Christians are also known to care about – can be blamed on the pressure that this war has placed on servicemen and their families, a war that Donald Rumsfeld predicted would be over in six weeks and Dick Cheney claimed would last 6 months as an absolute worst case scenario. Both of these men made these statements publicly, and the lack of accountability is shocking. One does not have to be some anti – American leftist atheist to be outraged by that. One can even support the notion (which incidentally I once myself supported but now find specious) that it was in the interests of America and our allies and the Iraqi people to remove Saddam Hussein and remove the weapons of mass destruction threat before Hussein would use his weapons program to kill Americans or more Iraqis and be outraged and want answers. One such question: if fighting this war as well as possible so that we could win it as quickly as possible so that we could minimize the casualties suffered by the Iraqis as well as our own men was ever a priority, then wow, these folks have sure figured out a way to make a whole lot of money off this deal, haven’t they?

All I am saying is that Christians should not let their outrage at abortion drive them into the arms of pro – war John McCain, who not only will keep us in Iraq indefinitely, but I am convinced will attack Iran, or whoever else strikes his fancy. And besides, John McCain isn’t pro – life anyway.

So choosing between two evils is a bad deal Christians no matter which way you go. Instead, we should trust God and choose righteousness, even if it means doing nothing and sitting on the sidelines, watching and praying for God’s Will to be done. That principle applies not only to politics, but also pretty much to everything in our Christian walk. After all, if we had all the answers and were always able to bring about righteousness by our own actions, either individually or as part of an organized Christian movement, why would we need God in the first place? What purpose would faith serve? Again, whether we are talking about choosing or supporting a church or pastor, or choosing a job or college, or making a decision concerning your children or in your marriage, deciding that you are going to pick the least among evils because you have to do SOMETHING is the mark of faithlessness.

It is precisely what King Saul did when he offered a burnt sacrifice himself because he was too impatient to wait on Samuel. He couldn’t just do NOTHING, right? I mean, there was a war going on, and he had to do SOMETHING. Right? Well, his inability to just be still and trust God was one of the main things that separated him from David. It was that sort of impatience that caused Saul to seek the counsel of the witch of Endor. Saul went seeking knowledge, and the only thing that he learned was that the next day, he and his sons would die and the very kingship that he had committed so many grotesque sins to preserve would be forever removed from his line and given to another. Think about it, Christians, and do not let it happen to you.

And if you are reading this and are unsaved, I encourage you to choose eternity with Jesus Christ over an eternity in the lake of fire and follow The Three Step Salvation Plan today!

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God’s Best is Your Purity 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

Posted by Job on March 28, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION: “. . . it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT: Premarital sex always endangers future marital happiness. It follows as night follows day. Surveys have shown that those who were sexually pure when they went to the marriage altar have the greatest opportunity to have a happy marriage. You can understand why. Suppose a man says to a woman “I love you so much; I just can’t wait.” He talks her into giving in to his desires. Now think about a man who loves and respects a woman by keeping her pure. Do you see the trust that that builds? God has a wonderful plan for you. Sex is so bad outside marriage because it’s so good inside marriage.

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Children Are Growing Up With No Mother, No Father, AND NO GOD!

Posted by Job on January 17, 2008
(Psalm 127:3; Isaiah 8:18; Proverbs 20:11)

(C) Copyright 2008, Bill Keller Ministries. All rights reserved.

Kids who are growing up with no mother, no father, and no God. After 100
months of and 56 months of the Liveprayer TV program, I am
seeing every day the family unit decimated and dealing with kids between 10
and 18 who are growing up in a home with no mother or no father, and in most
cases, with no God!!! We have a new generation that is growing up void of
God, void of His Truth, and void of a relationship with Jesus!!!

People wonder why I am like a broken record about getting God’s Truth into
the marketplace. If they sat in my chair, even for a day, they would
understand. You see, I deal daily with the very real lives of those people
who are growing up right here in the United States, a place with more
churches, ministries, Christian media and publications than man has ever
known. Yet they are part of the larger percentage of 2 full generations now
who have never even been inside of a church, aren’t the target audience of
most ministries, and have no contact with Christian media and publications.
These people have their lives, thoughts, and beliefs shaped by the world.

These kids have been born in and have grown up in a world that has taught
them there is no God and if there is, He is detached from our lives and
isn’t really interested in what happens in the world. They have been taught
in school that we weren’t created by God, but we evolved from a drop of pond
scum and are really little more than a genetic accident. From birth they
have been bombarded at every turn with raw sexual images and the message
that sex is a sport to be enjoyed at any time, with anyone, and in any way
without consequences. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol are things everybody does
because they make your life more enjoyable.

The games they have grown up with all have violent and death elements to
them, numbing them to how special and precious life is. Most have spent
thousands of hours every year in front of TV and internet screens with
little parental supervision, being exposed to every kind of lie the world
can tell about life. Most have grown up totally void of God and Biblical
Truth since it wasn’t taught to them at home and they weren’t being exposed
to it in the marketplace where they live each day.

I share with you often how what we do here each day is literally a battle
for the souls of men. That has never been more evident than in the lives of
those kids 10-18. Their entire belief system has been shaped by the lies of
this world. They are oblivious to the fact there is a very real enemy of
their soul who seeks to “kill, steal, and destroy,” THEM! A growing
percentage are growing up in homes with only one parent, and in many cases
with a parent who has also rejected Christ and Biblical Truth and have
modeled a life that only supports the lies of the world their child has
grown up believing.

So when they get a Daily Devotional or turn on to watch the Liveprayer TV
program, and they read or hear how evolution is a ridiculous theory and we
were created by God, that homosexuality is a sin, how sex outside of
marriage is not God’s plan, how abortion is murder, how faith in Jesus is
the only way to be saved and the other religions and beliefs the world
embraces are lies, THEY FREAK OUT! They have never heard these things
before. Biblical Truth flies in the face of everything they have ever heard
and been taught, seen and experienced their entire life.

Sadly, we deal daily both on the Internet and through the TV program with so
many young lives who have already been damaged before they ever had a chance
to live. Fortunately, many of their hearts are not yet so hardened that they
refuse to listen to the fact God loves them, gave us Truth to live this life
by, and that by having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ they can
find the true joy, peace, and abundance of this life plus know where their
eternal home will be when they die. The key is, we have to get out in the
marketplace where they live to reach them with this message.

My heart breaks for these kids who grow up without ever knowing the real
Truth of this life and end up with their lives decimated and destroyed at
such a young age. How many times do I have to say it, THE CHURCH IS PLAYING
GAMES, SATAN IS NOT!!! The answer is to follow God’s plan for the family. It
starts with marriage, God’s Holy Institution. A person needs to be equally
yoked with another Believer, they need to take the time and effort to build
a solid spiritual foundation to their relationship, and than follow through
on the vows they make to each other and God for life.

It is in that Godly union that children are born. A mother and father,
loving and nurturing them, raising them in the admonition of the Lord.
Growing up in a home where Jesus is honored and guided by God’s Truth. A
home where prayer and Bible reading is part of each day. A home where they
have the model of a mother and father who love the Lord and each other. It
is this environment that God intended children to be raised. In 2008, how
many children are growing up in a home like this?

I love you and care about you so much. So what is the answer? For you single
moms and dads, God will make you adequate. You can’t go back and change
things, so start today to do all you can to raise your child or children
with the love of Christ and guided by the Truth of His Word. Pray of your
children every day. Have a time of reading the Word with your children. Make
sure they are in church each Sunday. Talk to your children about all that
they are seeing and experiencing in their life so you can help bring God’s
Truth to contrast the lies of the world they’re being exposed to. Raising
your child in the admonition of the Lord is the greatest ministry you will
ever have, and God will make you adequate each day.

For those who are single, pray hard and long before you make that lifetime
commitment to someone. It is the most critical relationship you will have in
this life after your relationship with the Lord. Stay out of the trap of
pre-marital sex and possibly having to raise a child without the benefit of
a mother and father. Getting married, having children, are life-changing
events. If you will follow God’s plan, they can make your life special and
fulfilling beyond all you could ever imagine. God’s way works!

Finally, for you young kids and young adults. The world has lied to you
about EVERYTHING! There is only one source of Truth, God’s Word. It has the
answers to everything in this life and if you follow it, your life will be
blessed and abundant, full of joy and peace you can never experience without
God. The fact is, God DID create you in His image. He loves you so much. He
has a plan and purpose for your life. He loved you so much that despite the
fact you have sinned, he sent His Son Jesus to die for YOUR SINS so that by
putting your faith in Jesus, your sins could be forgiven and you would have
the assurance that when this brief life is over you would be forever with
God your Creator.

This is why I so passionately scratch and claw each day to press forward and
implore you to help me. Not only are there adults in their 20s to 90s out
there lost, hurting, and heading to hell unless they come to know Jesus, we
have children between 10 and 18 who are growing up for the most part totally
void of God and Biblical Truth, having their thoughts and beliefs shaped by
the lies of this world, and unless we reach them, they will become the next
generation to grow up and have children who will also be growing up without
God and rejecting Christ’s love for them.

Kids who are growing up with no mother, no father, and no God. May we rise
up and go into the marketplace where they are growing up and let them know
that the Bible is God’s guiding light of Truth and that Jesus loves them,
died for their sins, and wants to have an everlasting relationship with

In His love and service,
Your friend and brother in Christ,
Bill Keller

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Jesus Christ Overcame Sin Of Adultery!

Posted by Job on January 16, 2008

Perhaps there is no subject more personal, more emotional, and more
difficult to deal with than that of a spouse who cheats. First of all, there
is absolutely NO justification for cheating on your spouse. Point blank. It
is a sin in God’s eyes. Man has tried in his own feeble way to categorize
sin. Bad sins, and really bad sins. Sin is sin in the eyes of God, no matter
what it involves, since sin is an act of rebellion towards God.

There is no arguing however, because of the intimate and sensitive nature of
adultery, it is a highly visible sin because of the raw emotions involved.
Having laid that foundation, let me look for a minute at this topic from
both sides. That of the person who has committed adultery, and that of the
spouse who has been cheated on.

First of all, for anyone who has committed adultery, you have to understand
some basic issues. First is that what you have done is a sin in God’s eyes,
no matter how you may try to justify or spin it. There is NO circumstance
that makes adultery acceptable. Second, anyone who has been involved in this
type of behavior knows deep down inside the incredible price you end up
paying, for what boils down to a few moments of pleasure. Like all sin, you
pay a very high price for what you end up receiving.

Having dealt with this issue in literally thousands of cases over the years,
I can assure you that there is NEVER a positive ending. These relationships,
due to the foundation on which they are built, never last long, and if they
do, are never filled with the joy and peace life has to offer. Remember, God
cannot and will not bless sin. So you go off into this new relationship on a
foundation of sin and deceit, without the blessings of God. How can you ever
expect it to work?!

So what is the answer? Simple. Repent, get right with God, and then begin
the long, long process of getting back into a correct relationship with your
spouse. This will take lots of time, lots of effort, and things will never
be 100% the way they were before. However, God can heal and help you and
your spouse find His peace and love again to live many happy years together.
It is not hopeless.

But you have to be willing to repent, get right with God, and then take the
steps necessary to get right with your spouse. God is able to do all things,
and you will need His help and strength each step of the way, but He will
honor your commitment. Don’t give up, that is what the enemy wants you to

For the spouse that has been cheated on, it becomes a time for you to find a
level of faith and trust in God you never experienced before. Because of the
deep hurt and wounds, God is your only source of strength during this time.
While the Bible in the New Testament does give a scriptural “out” in a
marriage when adultery is involved, the reading of the complete Word still
proclaims it is God’s plan for one man, one woman, one lifetime. That must
be your goal.

You will need to spend much time in prayer for your spouse. They need your
prayers to overcome the wrongs they have done. You will need to spend much
time in prayer with the Lord to keep in focus that you are loved. Many
spouses who have been cheated on feel that they are to blame. Listen. You
CANNOT control the actions of your spouse. You CANNOT be responsible for
what they do. Quit blaming yourself for their actions! Know that in Christ
you are loved and worthy.

Lastly, you will need LOTS of prayer to have a forgiving heart. This, of
course, is the most difficult hurdle to overcome. It is not possible in our
strength. Only God can give you a forgiving heart to go on. Ultimately, the
key will be in your focus on the Lord. Your faith, your trust in the Lord
will be tested and stretched. It is in times like this when your faith
becomes very real.

There is absolutely no way in just a few paragraphs I can deal with an issue
like this that can fill a library full of books. I have tried to give you
the bottom line from both sides of this issue. It will all boil down to each
spouse’s commitment to the Lord to overcome this part of your life. The
cheating individual will need the Lord to overcome the sin committed and get
back into a right relationship with the spouse, and the spouse will need the
Lord to overcome the intense emotions and feelings to allow the spouse back
into a place of trust in the relationship.

There is no way things can ever be the same again; however, the Lord is
still in the healing business, and He can help work things out so there is
still a loving, fruitful relationship for many years to come. The key is
trusting God and not giving up.

I love you, and I care about you deeply. I realize from all of the emails we
get each day how prevalent this issue is. I will be praying for you today,
both those who have committed adultery and those spouses who have been
cheated on. I realize the heartache and pain you are going through. If I can
help in any way, don’t hesitate to email me; I will do my best. I cannot do
marriage counseling over email, but I can pray and give some basic

My main point today is that God is still on the throne, He is still in
control, and despite our rebellion…..He will have the final word. Jesus
said, “be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world.” That includes the
sins in this world like adultery.

In His love and service,
Your friend and brother in Christ,
Bill Keller

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be cast into everlasting darkness forever separated from God your creator.
To know for certain you will be forever with Jesus, go to:

(C) Copyright 2008, Bill Keller Ministries. All rights reserved.

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available via AUDIO each day.  Simply go to
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Adrian Rogers: The Role of Leader in the Home Ephesians 5:21 1 Corinthians 11:3

Posted by Job on January 6, 2008

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BIBLE MEDITATION:  “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” Ephesians 5:21

DEVOTIONAL THOUGHT:  First Corinthians 11:3
says that “the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman
is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” Sometimes we get confused
about what it means to be the “head” of the family. Anything with no
head is dead and anything with two heads is abnormal. Just because the
man is the head doesn’t mean that the wife is inferior. Both men and
women bear the image of God. Both are heirs of the grace of life. Both
are equal before God. But while male and female are equal, God has
given them different roles. In the family, men have been given the role
of leader.

ACTION POINT:  How would our world function if
no one was in charge? How would your body function without your head?
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Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography Part II

Posted by Job on December 17, 2007

This is part I:  Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography

Read Part 1. by Debi Pryde

How Could He Do Such a Thing?

Perhaps you are wondering, How do men or women get entrapped by something as vile and self-centered as pornography and masturbation or by any kind of sexual immorality, for that matter? How can a husband say he loves his wife and then engage in such raunchy behavior? Women who are faced with questions like these often feel deeply betrayed. As the impact of their husband’s sin presses on them, they usually vacillate between anger, insecurity, and sorrow. Trust is shattered, and fear quickly slides into its place. Because involvement with pornography isn’t usually understood or expected, women often struggle to grapple with the realities of such an enslaving habit. With good reason, it is a sin that causes a wife to feel strangely violated. Something or someone else has used what she believed was exclusively hers alone.

To a woman who is reeling in the aftershock of discovering her husband’s vice, it seems senseless and incredibly stupid for him to risk losing everything that is dear in order to gratify sexual urges that are so base. Yet responding with disgust and bewilderment is the way most of us respond when we hear about someone who is enslaved to some devastating sin. We are surprised because we do not fully comprehend the power of sin or believe every person is vulnerable to being controlled by it.

Women who are discouraged as they try to understand their husband’s slippery slide into moral failure should consider the sins they might be enslaved to—perhaps to sins that don’t have the same consequences or stigma that enslavement to pornography does. Is gossip a problem? Worry? Anger? Is there complete self-control with the things one buys? Is credit- card debt a battle? How about time management, time in prayer, and Bible study? Do you have any difficulties there? No matter who we are or how well we have managed to keep ourselves from the clutches of sin, we all still need to be exhorted to “lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us” (Heb. 12:1, KJV). Sin is incredibly deceptive, powerful, and tailor-made to easily exploit every person’s weakest link. One person’s besetting sin may not be another’s.

It’s easy to see sexual sins as heinous when they don’t tempt us. But what about our own besetting sins? Have we made up our mind to flee from them only to be entrapped when our pet passions got the best of us once again? Have we asked for forgiveness again and again and still failed? If we are not careful, we can become just like the Pharisee who self-righteously told the Lord (who let us know the Pharisee prayed with himself), “God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican. I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess” (Luke 18:11-12). Whenever we, like the publican, derive our sense of being right with God from what we do or do not do, we become puffed up with pride, critical of others, unmerciful, and unforgiving. We can forget that God’s grace is no more grace if we deserve His forgiveness and righteousness. If we come to God in our own merit, we will find not approval but rejection.

It isn’t uncommon for a woman betrayed by her husband’s immorality to become so prideful and self-righteous that she prays, but God refuses to listen. The Scriptures teach us that “God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble” (1 Pet. 5:5). At the same time, her husband, who sinned so grievously against her, might humbly acknowledge his sin and turn in repentance to God. He may discover that the Lord is ready to grant him full forgiveness and restoration of fellowship. What a strange twist—the betrayed wife behaves like the Pharisee while her husband acts like the publican, who ”standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner” (Luke 18:13). The sinning husband can be forgiven and restored even while his wife, who was sinned against, can be estranged from God. What a sobering reminder that none of us deserves God’s mercy or forgiveness. None of us can be forgiven because we deserve to be. Humility elicits God’s compassion and grace, but pride elicits His opposition completely. “I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted” (Luke 18:14). The truth is, all of us can be as enslaved to sin as the husband who is enslaved to pornography. And the path to victory for us is the same path of victory for him.

What We Need

In a nutshell, all sins that involve self-indulgence reflect the same spiritual lack of temperance or self-control. Scripture recognizes temperance as a byproduct or fruit of the Spirit, a characteristic of those who “walk in the Spirit.” One who exercises his own will and lives as he pleases is one who “walks after the flesh.” On the other hand, one who is able to restrain the sinful desires of his human nature and obediently chooses to do God’s will is one who “walks after the Spirit.” The Bible tells us in Galatians 5:16-17, “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust [sinful desires] of the flesh [human nature]. For the flesh lusteth [wars] against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” If the ability to do right and to resist wrong depends on one thing—walking in the Spirit—then learning what “walking in the Spirit” is should be of utmost importance to every believer. Of all the Christian men (including many pastors) who have been enslaved by sexual sin and of all the Christian women who have been enslaved by bitterness and slander, none can honestly dispute the practical truth of this passage of Scripture. Those who daily walk in the Spirit find all the strength and grace they need to withstand temptation and to do what is right. Those who do not walk in the Spirit do not. The flesh can never be trusted. The Lord Jesus Christ can.

To “walk” refers to how we live and conduct our life. To “walk in the Spirit” is to depend upon and walk with the Lord in the same way God commanded Israel to walk with Him. “And now, Israel, what doth the LORD thy God require of thee, but to fear the LORD thy God, to walk in all his ways, and to love him, and to serve the LORD thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul” (Deut. 10:12). The blessings and benefits to those who choose to learn and do God’s commandments are spelled out throughout both the Old and New Testament. “Who is wise, and he shall understand these things? prudent, and he shall know them? for the ways of the LORD are right, and the just shall walk in them: but the transgressors shall fall therein” (Hosea 14:9). David understood that the power and ability to walk with God begin first with a decision of the will but also depend on trusting in God’s enabling grace and strength to do so. God alone enables us to walk in His ways. “Teach me [dependence] thy way, O LORD; I will [the will exercised] walk in thy truth: unite my heart to fear thy name” (Ps. 86:11).

What both husband and wife need when faced with the aftermath of sexual sin is the Lord Jesus Christ Himself, for He alone is the only means through which a husband will conquer his sexual sin or a wife will conquer the temptation to give up or become bitter. This is a time when both need to grasp the fact that one’s spouse never could and never will be able to provide the kind of emotional satisfaction and fulfillment that can come only from a wholehearted relationship with Christ. Even the best marriage relationship can be filled with disillusionment and disappointment if our first love is not our Savior with whom we are united forever.

What a miracle of God’s grace if your husband is experiencing true repentance and grappling with the realities of his sin. True repentance always brings true sorrow for sin. But whether your husband repents or not, you, the betrayed wife, desperately need to learn the practical lessons of walking with God, daily trusting Him, communing with Him, listening to Him, and depending on Him. He alone will never betray you, disappoint you, leave you, or cease loving you. At a time in your life when your hopes and dreams seem to be crumbling all around you, you have the privilege to flee to the Lord and to find in Him everything you need to face the challenges of each new day.

Many saints will testify that some of the sweetest times with the Lord are when we are experiencing the depths of anguish and despair. But God does not leave us in the valley of sorrows. He walks beside us in the valley and sustains us through the darkest night, and then He leads us ever upward to sunny pastures, where we will once again delight in all of God’s loving provision. David testified of this blessing when he said, “I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD” (Ps. 27:13-14).

Look up, dear sister, and don’t look within. Don’t focus your thoughts on your husband—look up, for that is from where your help and deliverance will come! David learned this same lesson and confidently told us,

I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the LORD, which made heaven and earth. He will not suffer thy foot to be moved: he that keepeth thee will not slumber. Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. The LORD is thy keeper: the LORD is thy shade upon thy right hand. The sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night. The LORD shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul. The LORD shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore (Ps. 121:1-8).

Debi Pryde has taught ladies’ Bible classes and spoken at retreats and seminars for the past 30 years. A certified biblical counselor, she is particularly burdened for women and for the problems they face in today’s world. She has published a variety of Bible studies and books, including Secrets of a Happy Heart, Happily Married, and Precept Upon Precept. She and her husband, Tom, are active members at Lighthouse Baptist Church (La Verne, CA). You can read more about Debi, about her ministry, and about her rose garden by visiting her website.

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Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography

Posted by Job on December 14, 2007

From Sharper Iron: Encouragement for Women Whose Husbands Have Fallen Into Pornography

by Debi Pryde

You’ve made it through the initial discovery. You’ve made the decision to stay in your marriage and fight for it. You know life will never be the same again, but life does goes on. The routines of everyday living continue—work, school, grocery shopping, housework, cooking, answering the phone. You are going through the motions, and you are giving your best. But discouragement and sorrow might still be your constant companions. Perhaps you are looking back instead of looking forward, and you are still mourning over what you might still see as total loss.Remember, discouragement is always rooted in the way we think—the specific thoughts we center our attention on, the “what ifs” and “if onlys” that crowd out any hope or rays of light. Yes, you may know God’s promises, but they will bring no comfort if your heart refuses to be comforted. Your heart may continue to mourn as though sorrow will somehow soothe the deep wounds that are yet so tender and sore. Oh, dear sister, there is no comfort, no joy, no healing, and no hope in the deep abyss of morbid thoughts and fears.

Would you take a moment to read these gentle reminders that can lead you out of the valley and into the light of day? As we have often sung,

Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
Look full in His wonderful face,
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
In the light of His glory and grace.

This truth doesn’t make sense to our human hearts, but the weapon that slays the enemy of discouragement is within our reach and within our power to pick up and use. We have the Holy Spirit Himself dwelling within us, and God wants us to be encouraged, comforted, and strengthened. The Bible assures us, “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ” (2 Cor. 10:3-5, KJV). Will you summon inner courage by praying right now and asking God to walk with us a moment and to strengthen you as we face some of those tormenting monsters together and conquer them with God’s sword?

Where in the World Did She Come from?

Many women have described their husband’s bondage to pornography as adultery with a woman they cannot speak to or confront; after all, she lives on the pages of a magazine or a website. She is a phantom who steals the attentions and affections of their husbands and entices them to follow her far away from real life at home in a real world. This perpetually naked woman, who is airbrushed to perfection, feels no concern for the home she destroys, for the hearts she breaks, or for the men she lures into her pernicious trap. She smiles provocatively and demands nothing—or so it seems to the men who are mesmerized by her. Little do they know that they are following this woman like a cow to the slaughterhouse (Prov. 7:22), where death and horror quietly await them.

This seemingly “harmless” fascination with a woman who never speaks or demands is, in reality, fascination with a woman who is leading a steady stream of men into a trap of the darkest and most sinister sort. While they are feasting on her delights, they are unaware that she is silently eroding their defenses and infiltrating every corner of their lives with only one intent—total destruction. A beautiful Trojan horse, she cares nothing for them and has no pity, though she destroys careers, marriages, homes, and—most precious of all—a man’s integrity, character, and relationship with God. Solomon warns about this woman. In Ecclesiastes 7:25, we read, “I applied mine heart to know, and to search, and to seek out wisdom, and the reason of things, and to know the wickedness of folly, even of foolishness and madness: And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares [traps] and nets, and her hands as bands [prison]: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.”

Men who have been taken by the beauty of this licentious woman called “pornography” have far greater problems than a fascination with lewd photography. They have been hooked by the lure of illicit sexual arousal. Pornography has one goal—arousal and sexual release. Make no mistake about it—the pictures are the bait, not the hook. The hook that snares and entraps is the sexual high. It’s certainly enticing because it seems better than the euphoria of elicit drugs with none of the “side effects.” It’s perfectly legal, comes without exposure to sexually transmitted diseases, costs little, requires no self-sacrifice, and demands no emotional ties or investments of time. Apparently, no one is hurt, no one is physically violated, and no adultery is committed. The illusion is that this sexual high is the most perfect stress release and trouble-free recreation a man could engage in with so little cost and trouble. There’s only one problem—this sexual high completely ignores God.

Men entrapped by the ritualistic habits of masturbation (self-sex) live as though sexual gratification were a sport rather than a sacred gift from God reserved for the intimacies of marriage. Masturbation disregards the one-flesh relationship of marriage characterized by physical union and mutual enjoyment. It exchanges the long-lasting delights of true intimacy and love with one’s spouse for a self-centered shortcut to momentary gratification that incrementally destroys a man’s ability to enjoy sex with his wife and to interact with her. It utterly destroys the mysterious spiritual bond that is established between a man and a woman who have come together in sexual union, and it ultimately grieves the Holy Spirit and alienates a man from his God. In the end, masturbation reduces a sacred act to lurid debauchery and hardens a man’s heart until he no longer hears the cries of his own wife or children—let alone the still-small voice of the Holy Spirit. High on the throne of his heart is his own insatiable lust, which rules his life with an all-encompassing tyrannical control.

Lust does conquer and rule whoever lingers in its grasp. What may have begun with curiosity or an impulsive act during a time of stress quickly envelops and consumes a man until he no longer controls it—lust controls him. And sometimes lust goes beyond the pages of photographic images and morphs into a real woman who is willing to play the part and become a living fantasy. How in the world can this sin happen to a Christian man, and is there any hope for his rescue? Thankfully, God’s love, grace, and power can transform even men who have been corrupted by the utter blindness and deception of sexual vices. There is hope and more than that—hope for a better tomorrow.

“What?” Paul asks incredulously, “know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication [any sexual immorality]. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body” (1 Cor. 6:16-18). Adultery is much more than physical intercourse between two living, breathing people. To understand why adulterous behavior by a spouse wreaks such internal havoc, one must understand that it is more than a simple physical act. Adultery includes any act that robs a marriage of intimacy that rightfully belongs to one’s marriage partner alone. God designed marriage, which is the intertwining of two people’s lives both physically and emotionally, to produce an exclusive and delightful bond of companionship.

The sexual union is something God created for our enjoyment. Animals procreate to satisfy sexual urges, but people automatically engage their minds when they engage in sexual union. People are designed in such a way that they develop an emotional attachment to the object of their love and physical attachment. Emotional intimacy and physical intimacy cannot be separated—the two complement and feed each other. If someone sets his (or her) love on the delights of a harlot, he will become inextricably attached to the harlot. If one sets his love on the delights of his spouse, he will become attached to his spouse. If one sets his love on himself, he will become attached to his own self and be enveloped in self-gratification. When human beings violate the built-in plan God set in motion, they will always suffer excruciating consequences.

A satisfying marriage relationship in which both partners are emotionally attached to each other can be compared to a glass of water that is completely filled. There’s no room for more water from another source—the glass is full. But when one or both partners begin investing their emotional and physical efforts in a third object of sexual attraction, the full glass of water begins slowly draining into another glass. Eventually, the once-full glass becomes a partially full glass of water and ultimately nothing more than a dry glass with nothing in it. Men and women in such a marriage sense that something is wrong with their marriage relationship. It is no longer satisfying or warm. They often wrongly conclude that they no longer love their spouse, or they believe all hope for the marriage is gone. What they do not recognize is that they themselves have stopped refilling the glass. They have poured themselves into another glass until their marriage glass has become empty. When both partners begin pouring themselves into each other and begin investing their attention and nurture into their own relationship, the “outside glass” becomes empty, and the marriage is once again full and satisfied.

With this illustration fresh in your mind, go back to the beginning of this article and reread the description of a man entrapped in pornography. Then be sure to read Part Two on Monday.

Debi Pryde has taught ladies’ Bible classes and spoken at retreats and seminars for the past 30 years. A certified biblical counselor, she is particularly burdened for women and for the problems they face in today’s world. She has published a variety of Bible studies and books, including Secrets of a Happy Heart, Happily Married, and Precept Upon Precept. She and her husband, Tom, are active members at Lighthouse Baptist Church (La Verne, CA). You can read more about Debi, about her ministry, and about her rose garden by visiting her website.

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Adultery Destroys Families

Posted by Job on December 11, 2007

By Paul Tautges
Posted: 12/10/2007

Adultery Destroys Families 

Paul Tautges



Kerby Anderson of Probe Ministries has done extensive research on the subject of adultery in the United States. In an article entitled, The Allure of Cyber-Relationships (online affairs), he comes to this conclusion:


…adultery is becoming more common, and researchers are finding that women are as likely as men to have an affair. A 1983 study found that 29 percent of married people under 25 had had an affair with no statistical difference between the number of men and women who chose to be unfaithful to their spouses early in life. By comparison, only 9 percent of spouses in the 1950s under the age of 25 had been involved in extramarital sex. Another study concluded that by age 40 about 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55 percent of wives become involved in an extramarital affair.[1]


How can Christians guard themselves from the destruction of adultery? Proverbs 2:16-19 provides some help. In four short verses, we are warned against two characteristics of adulteresses (what Solomon called strange women) and two tragic consequences of adultery.


 Proverbs 2:16-19  To deliver you from the strange woman, from the adulteress who flatters with her words; that leaves the companion of her youth, and forgets the covenant of her God; for her house sinks down to death, and her tracks lead to the dead; none who go to her return again, nor do they reach the paths of life.


I.                   Characteristics of an adulteress (vv. 16-17)


A.     She flatters with her speech

The strange woman uses ego-feeding words to trap her prey. “For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and smoother than oil is her speech” (5:3). However, God’s commands will “keep you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of a seductress” (6:24; Cf. 2:16; 7:2). Beware of her smooth words for, “With her many persuasions she entices him; with her flattering lips she seduces him” (7:21). The end is certain: “The mouth of an adulteress is a deep pit; he who is cursed of the LORD will fall into it” (Prov. 22:14).


B.     She forsakes her marriage covenant

The adulteress breaks her covenant with her husband, the “companion of her youth.” But, in doing so, she also breaks the covenant that she made with God. Solomon instructed his married sons, “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth” (Proverbs 5:18). But, you say, how can Solomon say that? He had 700 wives! Yes, you are right (1 Kings 11:3), but near the end of his life he saw the folly of his ways. He wrote in Ecclesiastes, “And I discovered more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, whose hands are chains. One who is pleasing to God will escape from her, but the sinner will be captured by her” (Eccl. 7:26). The covenant of marriage is sacred and, therefore, must be guarded with godly jealousy. “For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24).


II.                Consequences of adultery (vv. 18-19)

Charles Bridge calls this strange woman, “The slave of unlawful desire; having no guide but her own will; no pleasure but sensual gratification; quickly she becomes her own and her victim’s murderer. Her house is the land of death…Eternal death is her doom.”[2] Simply stated, adultery brings destruction. The text reveals two ways destruction comes.


A.     Her life and family are brought to destruction (v. 18a)

“For her house sinks down to death” means that her own life and the lives of all those in her house will suffer the tragic consequences of her sin. No man, or woman, is an island. Our sin always affects others to one degree or another.


B.     Her victims’ lives and families are destroyed (v. 18b-19)

Not only will her own “house” be destroyed, but “her tracks lead to the dead.” The Hebrew words emphasize physical destruction and death, which indicate that it is correct to conclude that sin is the origin of sexually transmitted diseases, which flourish in the immoral and, in many cases, lead to premature death. “None…return again…nor do they reach the paths of life.” Proverbs 6:32 says the one who commits adultery “is lacking sense; He who would destroy himself does it.” Proverbs 7 describes this blind stupidity in picturesque words: “Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks, till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, he did not know it would cost his life. Now therefore, listen to me, my children; pay attention to the words of my mouth: Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, do not stray into her paths; for she has cast down many wounded, and all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death” (7:22-25, 27).


The most obvious biblical illustration of the destructive power of adultery is King David. Nathan the prophet pointed out David’s sin by telling a parable (2 Samuel 12:1-14). David then passed judgment on himself. At least four consequences of his sin were named.

  • David’s family would be filled with violence (“the sword shall never depart from your house.”)
  • David’s wives would be taken and defiled in public (Absalom fulfilled this)
  • David’s sin would be publicly exposed (what he did in secret is now known by all)
  • David’s son would die (“the child also that is born to you shall surely die.”)


Now more than ever we need godly wisdom to protect us from the destruction of adultery. Here are three practical ways to protect your marriage and family.


  • Nurture and delight in your love relationship.

Drink water from your own cistern, and fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone, and not for strangers with you.  Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; be exhilarated always with her love. For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress, and embrace the bosom of a foreigner? For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the LORD, and He watches all his paths. His own iniquities will capture the wicked, and he will be held with the cords of his sin. He will die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he will go astray” (Proverbs 5: 15-23).


Commenting on this passage, Melvin Efaw, my wife’s childhood pastor (who recently went home to the Lord), wrote over twenty years ago:


   There is nothing more beautiful than the exchange of marriage vows by a fine Christian man and woman. Friends look on and heaven listens in. In God’s sight they are holy and binding vows. They are not to be treated lightly. They are made to be kept. Yet today many young people plunge into marriage thinking that if it does not work out they can end the relationship and try again and again. God says that men and women have the right to enjoy only lawful pleasures. In Eastern countries the two sources of water supply were the well and the cistern of rainwater. Each house had its own well and its own cistern.

   So each man is to have his own wife and each woman is to have her own husband. They are to enjoy one another only. They are to be true to each other.  Some sexologists say that a marriage that is becoming dull can be helped by ‘healthy adultery.’ God says there is no such thing. He teaches that marriages are happier when one man and one woman are faithful to each other, and that in the final analysis sin against His laws can only bring misery and judgment.[3]


  • Flee lust.

“Do not lust after her beauty” (6:25a; NKJ).


“Everyone who looks on a woman to lust for her has committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matt. 5:27-28).


  • Avoid spending time alone with the opposite sex.

“Now then, my sons, listen to me, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.  Keep your way far from her [the adulteress], and do not go near the door of her house” (5:7-8).


But what do you do if you find yourself inadvertently trapped? Learn from Joseph. When he found himself alone in a room with a powerful seductress who sought to overwhelm her prey, “he left his garment in her hand and fled, and went outside” (Genesis 39:12). Men, there is only one logical way to respond to the subtle, or not so subtle, advances of an adulteress: run for your life! “Flee immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18).


Let us guard our marriages as if our very lives and families depended on it. Because they do!



[2] Charles Bridges, Proverbs (Carlisle, PA: Banner of Truth Trust, 1994, orig. 1846), p. 19.

[3] Melvin V. Efaw, Practical Points from Proverbs (Huntington, WV: Self-published, 1986), pp. 6-7.

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Why The Christian Family Matters So Much To God

Posted by Job on September 1, 2007

From Ronald Dart’s Born To Win Ministry,

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Paula And Randy White’s Apostastic Statement On Their Divorce

Posted by Job on August 26, 2007

Update: see Paula White Claims That Jesus Christ Died In Vain!

From news article: Megachurch founding pastors to seek divorce. This will take the form of a “running commentary” type of deal. I am not glorifying in misfortune or mocking them; this is for the sole purpose of letting people know that they shouldn’t have been following Whites or preachers like them in the first place, and if they are they should stop. People, having a “happy successful marriage” according to the selfish carnal worldly desires of your own flesh is part and parcel of the prosperity doctrine, and in one week two of the most prominent teachers of it: Paula and Randy White and Juanita Bynum and Bishop Weeks III, have been shown not to be practicing what they preach. And no wonder. The prosperity doctrine is based on promises made to the nation of Israel under the old covenant, not to individuals in the church under the new covenant. In order to have a lasting Christian marriage, you have to learn about the new covenant and live under its terms: you, your spouse, and any children that God sees fit to bless you with. If you aren’t willing to do that, then just take Paul’s advice and don’t get married! Realize that under the old covenant, a major purpose of marriage was to propagate the Jewish race, religion, and nation so that God the Father could use it to bring Jesus Christ into the world. That does not apply to us! Under the new covenant, marriage is to be within the Body of Christ, and therefore being married to your spouse is a “type”, a representation, of being married to God Himself. That is why the New Testament says that a man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church, and that a woman is to submit to her husband. That is why where the old covenant’s reasons for divorce and remarriage were quite liberal, the new covenant only allows one party divorce if the other party defiles the covenant – which is the same as defiling the Body of Christ – with sexual immorality, and remarriage is only allowed if the other party abandons you for another – again tantamount to their leaving the Body of Christ for another religion.

The new covenant is all about following the example of Christ, and the example of Christ is that of service, submission, and self – sacrifice. Just as Christ submitted Himself to the Father, served man, and sacrificed Himself to cover our sins, Christian husbands and wives are to do the same: submit to God and each other, serve God and each other, and sacrifice their own wants, needs, and desires for the marriage, with the goal being not to honor yourself or your spouse, but God. You are supposed to have faith that if you do these things, GOD will bless your marriage by giving you AND your partner peace, charity, and joy in it through the fruits of the Holy Spirit. This whole introducing the prosperity doctrine into marriage – emblemized by the fur coats that Randy was buying Paula and the huge diamond ring that Thomas Weeks III bought Juanita Bynum. It takes the focus off God and puts it onto the individual, turning marriage from an institution where the participants seek to please God in spirit to one where the participants try to use religion to please their flesh. But let me warn you: the couple that calls itself Christian while trying to primarily please themselves or each other instead of serving God will only wind up perverting everything about the marriage, even the good things that God gave them that were to be holy and righteous. That is what I was saying in my response to Pastor Anavah (who now has her own weblog, click here to visit it) in Is Bishop Thomas Weeks III A Wife Beater? We Know He’s A Heretic!. So now, the article on the Whites:

TAMPA — Megachurch pastors Randy and Paula White stood before their congregation Thursday night and made the announcement that many in their flock feared had been coming for months. They are divorcing. (So if “the flock” knew that their marriage was going to break up, thereby exposing their entire ministry as a lie, why were they still attending the church? Remember: it was the second marriage for both. Please remember what Paul wrote in Timothy about the qualifications for a pastor or church officer: a man that does not have control over his own house – which, as I said earlier, will happen because the man is not living in submission to Jesus Christ – should not serve in that position. I suppose that one could be liberal with this and make allowances for his first divorce. But after his second marriage begun to collapse, it should have been obvious to these people that this was not a man following God and that it was time to follow a new church. It is appalling how Christians are now following preachers that swap wives like Hollywood celebrities.)

“It is the most difficult decision that I have had to make in my entire life,” said the Rev. Randy White, 49. (So your first divorce was easier? If so, why?) “I take full responsibility for a failed marriage -100 percent. I don’t blame Paula, and I don’t blame other parties. But as the man of the house, I take full responsibility for that.” (According to the Bible, this can only be so if Randy White was committing adultery or some other form of sexual immorality. If that was not the case, then he is lying. Either she is 100% at fault for abandoning him, or they are equally at fault for mutually consenting to the sin of divorce. Even if in private one party initiated the divorce and the other party opposes it but has no choice – and there is evidence that such is indeed the case – then the fault is still mutual for putting on this show for public appearances. If one party is trying to live according to the Bible here, that party is obligated to GOD to let his or her attempts to remain faithful to scripture known, not to the reputation of the one that is sinning by leaving. God calls on us to forgive sinners, not to make a mockery of His scriptures in order to save their reputations – and their financially lucrative ministries.)

He praised his wife, calling her an exceptional woman and a great preacher and wife. (Anyone who has been to her website, her page, or has seen her play the sexual exploitation game with Tyra Banks would disagree.)

Standing by his side and appearing to fight back tears, the Rev. Paula White called the decision to divorce “one of the most painful of our lives.” (As I have frequently stated in my criticisms of women who defy scripture by taking the roles of pastor or others in authority in the church, they have the ability to use emotional manipulation to avert personal responsibility for their actions, something that would never be tolerated in a man, and therefore making it virtually impossible for the Body of Christ to hold its officers accountable for scripture. Which is, of course, a main reason why male pastors like Randy White find it so convenient to have his wife be the co – pastor: he can just have her come out and cry to cover up not only her misdeeds but also to run interference for his. Please note how the controversies regarding both the Whites and the Bynum-Weeks are already being viewed by many as personal marital disputes and not spiritual ones involving people with positions of authority, influence, and responsibility that require accountability to scripture. A secular corporation would never allow the chief financial officer to bring out and allow his wife to cry and carry on to cover him for embezzling or fraud, why the church has lower standards than secular corporations is something that we will be judged for.)

“But God always comes to you in the dark places of life,” White said, standing beside her husband in the pulpit. (Anyone ever hear of going to a righteous holy God that hates sin with sorrow and repentance so that He will graciously allow you to return to fellowship with Him, and to pledge to keep His commandments? I suppose that it is not a part of their teaching.)

White, 41, also offered a note of optimism.

“It’s not the end of the story for Randy or Paula or maybe even Randy and Paula,” she said. (Today? No. But the day of the Lord is coming, and THAT DAY will be your end unless you repent.)

The couple, who have both been married and divorced before, did not say what caused their breakup. They also did not detail if they had filed for divorce. They have grown children from previous relationships but none together.

Word about trouble in the couple’s marriage has circulated for months. The Whites’ disparate ministry paths have fueled much of the concern. Randy White, a bishop (ordained as one by whom?) at Without Walls International Church, has been spending time in Malibu, Calif., in hopes of establishing a ministry on the West Coast. Paula White, the church’s senior pastor (so much for being in subjection to your husband as scripture requires) and a sought-after televangelist, keeps an apartment in New York City, where she recently opened a new ministry and self-help center in July. (Make no mistake: they have been planning this for awhile. Just as companies plan mergers, the Whites have been planning their split in a way where they will remain rich and their “ministries” financially lucrative.)

The couple, arguably the most prominent evangelical partners in the state, said they made their announcement at Thursday night’s service to tell their church “family” before word of their separation appears in the local and national media.

The Whites’ split calls into question the future of the 22,000 member megachurch, which the couple founded as South Tampa Christian Center in 1991. During their announcement, which came just before the sermon, the Whites sought to put those concerns to rest.

Randy White said he would continue to lead Without Walls and would focus on being a “great pastor” and a “great dad.” (Don’t worry, you will always have a place where you can follow a false preacher apostate’s man – pleasing false gospel. No need to worry about finding a real church with a pastor that is at least TRYING to obey scripture.)

Paula White said she would also continue to preach at Without Walls when invited by her husband. (Yep. If she will preach for oneness pentecostal cult heretics like Jakes and Noel Jones, she will preach for her ex – husband. The money is good either way, and you KNOW it will make for a great TBN Praise The Lord special about how in Christ we can set aside everything, including what the Bible tells us to do, and come together in unity.) She also said Paula White Ministries would continue to be based in Tampa.

Several hundred Without Walls members were in the audience for the announcement (out of 20000+?) . As the Whites spoke, some people in the crowd cried (not for the reason that Jeremiah did in Lamentations, of course). Others appeared stunned, noticeable by the audible gasps in the cavernous sanctuary.

Warming herself outside the church, one woman said “God knows best,” before being told by another member to avoid talking to the media. At least one Without Walls member said the church was hurting and lashed out at a reporter for being on site to witness the announcement. (That is a way to win hearts for the gospel: abusing reporters and conspiring to silence. And it isn’t about what God wants, but how we feel, right?)

The church broadcasts its services via the Internet at Streaming Faith (the same people that dumped Reuben Armstrong for telling the truth about false preachers like Paula White Streaming Faith Dumps Reuben Armstrong! and is not run by Christians and is trying to use the technology developed by Christians to spread the gospel to get into the Internet pornography business More Trouble For Streaming Faith! Make no mistake, it is all about the money, people!) . But last night’s announcement was not aired. The video of the broadcast was interrupted without explanation and resumed after the announcement. Inside the church, the preacher for the evening, the Rev. Tim Storey, sought to offer direction to a stunned congregation.

“How many of you feel sorrow tonight,” Storey asked the crowd. Hands shot up around the sanctuary. “We should. But God is still good.” (How many of you are willing to repent of your sins and follow the true gospel, living your life as governed by the Bible? If you do, please The Three Step Salvation Plan!)

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Video Game Addictions Destroying Marriages And Families

Posted by Job on August 23, 2007

1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

See link: Game widows grieve ‘lost’ spouses. Look at this story or its text below and tell me that there isn’t a war going on, Christians? Do not worry, this is not some screed against video gaming in and of itself. (Do not deny, however, that the evil content of a great many of these games should not be opposed by Christians.) Instead, the issue here is the truth that there are a great many things out there that are working to destroy minds, bodies, lives, and families. Christians need to be out there on the front lines constantly opposing this work of the enemy with the gospel, with prayer and counseling, and with spiritual warfare. Yes, if you are ignoring your spouse and children to sit and play video games all day, then you have a demon in you, if not several. The same is true with anyone that is addicted to gambling, sports, sex, alcohol or drugs, talk radio, television, etc. This is not hard to understand. It is that Christians are unwilling to face the reality because they are either A) afraid of demons or B) afraid of being viewed as strange, fanatical, or uneducated for going around talking about evil spirits and such. So they either run away from the problem, or try to “fight it” with Freudianism. Well let me tell you this: if you are unwilling to offer a family the help that it really needs to keep it from being destroyed by Satan in this manner … to keep fathers from being torn from their children and wives from their spouses, and the result being the video game addict living alone and depressed (giving the addict all the more motivation to seek escape through games and its culture) knowing what the end of that person will be unless God intervenes and saves the addict, then whose side are you on? Certainly not God’s! Well I have to let you know this right now: if you are addicted to video games or to anything else, then your only hope is Jesus Christ. And if you are a Christian that is so filled with fear and false doctrines that you are unwilling or unable to admit and confront the demonic activity in addiction and other areas, well let me tell you something judgment day is coming for you too you alleged Christian, and Jesus Christ is YOUR only hope as well. To both you groups and all others, I offer you this opportunity and do not let it pass you buy: follow The Three Step Salvation Plan! And as for adults – especially men – that seek escapism through video and online gaming, even by way of those Madden NFL games that I hear are absolutely outstanding … well again I have no scriptural basis for declaring this to be sin. The most that I can do is argue that certain games should be avoided if the CONTENT glamorizes, glorifies, or desensitizes you to sin, and I addressed that in my Hear No Evil, See No Evil, Speak No Evil, Do No Evil, Fear No Evil series written for the old site. But apart from that, please recall: everything in moderation. Make sure that you are walking within the Will of God and honoring God in all things and at all times. Above all, remember 1 Corinthians 13:11! And this goes not only for video games, but movies, books, TV shows, magazines, the people that you socialize with, and yes ESPECIALLY the churches that you attend and preachers that you follow. Christianity is 100% serious, people. There is a war going on, and don’t you ever forget it!

By Winda Benedetti MSNBC contributor

They don’t wear black veils. You won’t find them shopping for caskets at the local funeral home. And they don’t expect you to send them somber flower arrangements or cards expressing your sympathy.

And yet, they’re widows nonetheless.

Though their spouses and partners haven’t gone to the great beyond, these particular widows and widowers say their loved ones have gone someplace that’s almost as distant and unreachable. Some have left this world for the “World of Warcraft,” others have forsaken this life for “Second Life” and still others have been taken away by “EverQuest,” “Final Fantasy XI” and “Dark Age of Camelot.” As the ranks of those playing video games in general — and massively multiplayer online games in particular — continue to grow, so grow the ranks of those who refer to themselves as “game widows.”

They are the husbands, wives, girlfriends and boyfriends of gamers whose playing habits have consumed their lives. The bereaved say their mates have suffered a kind of digital death that has left only the shell of the person they loved behind. And like a real death, it has left the people who remain heartbroken, scared and angry.

“I felt like I wasn’t even married anymore,” says Sherry Myrow, 29, of Toronto. Her husband had become obsessed with playing “WoW,” a hugely popular online role-playing game that now boasts some nine million subscribers world-wide. “He wasn’t eating or sleeping. He wasn’t cooking — and he loves cooking. He became this person who wasn’t interested in life if it didn’t have to do with ‘World of Warcraft’.”

Angry, frustrated and feeling alone, Myrow started — a Web site for “gaming’s other half” — in June of 2005 and quickly discovered just how not alone she was.

“By July I had 400 active members and by the end of the year I had one thousand members,” she says.

Sherry Myrow
Sherry Myrow, of Toronto, started in June 2005. The site has some 2,000 members.
These days, has some 2,000 members who gather in the forums to vent their frustrations and mourn their losses together. Meanwhile, Myrow isn’t the only one who is, ironically enough, using the Internet as means of dealing with the devil it helped deliver into her home.

Jennifer Newberry sounds both discouraged and exhausted when she talks about her husband’s addiction to “WoW,” a game he has, at times, played up to 18 hours a day.

“Before he got into this game he had lots of other interests,” she says. “He was into music and cars, he was active, outdoorsy, he used to hang out with friends. Now he’s agoraphobic and won’t go out of the basement.”

Newberry joined the “WoW” Widows Support Group at in October of 2005 so she could talk to other people who shared her plight. Back then there were 500 members. Two years later, Newberry has taken over as owner of the group that now includes more than 3,000 members.

“It wasn’t like being in a relationship,” Shelly Quintana says of life with her husband at the height of his gaming addiction, “it was like living with a zombie.”

In March of 2006, Quintana, a New Jersey mother of three, started a Web site called and a comic strip called “Widow’s Revenge” in response to her husband’s obsession with the likes of “Ultima Online” and “WoW.” At first, she did it as a way to tease the man she loved and missed. But then, “It just got crazy popular,” she says.

Living with the dead
Certainly video game addiction has been a much-discussed topic in recent months. This summer, a Reno couple was arrested after they let their two children nearly starve to death while they played a role-playing video game. And in June, the American Medical Association considered a proposal to declare video game addiction a formal psychiatric disorder.

Much to many widows’ dismay, the AMA decided against the official designation (at least for the time being), saying it needed further study.

Still, click through the pages of the widow support sites and you’ll find plenty of terrible tales told by those living with players unable to control their habit. There’s the woman whose husband left her in the hospital two hours after their baby was born so he could go home and play. There’s the bed-ridden wife whose husband wouldn’t take care of her because he was so busy gaming.

But it’s the overwhelming number of relatively ordinary tales of loneliness and despair in the wake of a mate’s compulsive gaming that make this phenomenon truly heartbreaking.

The posts in the forums frequently sound like this one:
He’s sitting 2 computers away from me, playing WoW. 11 years together, 2 kids and now a $1,000 bill for marriage therapy that’s not really working. I’m done, have been for awhile. It’s not just WoW, before WoW it was Final Fantasy, and before that SOCOM….I’ve been the invisible woman in my home for over 3 years…and honestly I’m done. I deserve a man who wants to spend time with me not his stupid games.

Quintana knows the feeling. She recalls being halfway around the world, visiting family in New Zealand, when she called the husband she hadn’t seen for weeks. But he wasn’t exactly happy to hear from her.

“He said, ‘I’ll have to call you back I’m in the middle of a raid,’ ” she says, referring to the group events that take place within ‘WoW.’ “It was horribly painful.”

And it’s not just women widows out there. There are plenty of men who’ve lost their wives and girlfriends to gaming as well. Writes one widower at I’m a young dad with a little boy and baby girl and a wife who plays a whole lot of WoW…My wife plays during every free hour she has…When the baby wakes up during her afternoon nap, which is one of my wife’s daily time-slots for WOW…she gets seriously pissed off.

“With these MMORPGs, they will swallow almost anybody,” Myrow says, estimating that’s membership is split 70 percent women and 30 percent men. “They’re so user-friendly and so appealing to even a non-gamer that pretty much anyone can get sucked into them.”
Humor to help the hurt
“I’ve just come to a point where I don’t care anymore,” Newberry says. “I just kind of live like a single person. It’s a lost cause. I can’t make him change. And there are no rehab centers to send him to. If there were rehab centers I could send him to, he’d be first in line to get in.”

Dr. Hilarie Cash, a Redmond-based therapist and one of the few who specializes in Internet and computer addiction, believes that, in the future, gaming addiction will be declared an official mental disorder. She also believes that 12-step programs to help gameaholics kick their habits will be commonplace. Until then, she says widows have a particularly difficult battle.

“Right now video gaming is sexy and cool and it’s the up and coming fun way to live life,” she says. “So it is very hard to get people to see it for what it is as an addiction.”

Meanwhile, with a dearth of support, the widows deal with their loved ones’ addiction the best they can. Some try to nag their mates into quitting, some beg and plead. Some break game discs, install key loggers, or sabotage the computers all together.

Quintana draws comic strips.

She started drawing the “Widow’s Revenge” strips and posting them to as a way to vent her frustrations and poke a bit of fun at gamers and their compulsive behavior.

In one cartoon, a “WoW” addict can’t understand why the electric company won’t take gold from the game as payment after the power to his home gets cut off. In another, a game widow gets all dressed up for date night with her husband only to find that his idea of a date night is playing a two-person video game together.

“Finding some humor in it has really helped,” she says, explaining that her husband is playing less these days. “You get into a rut and you start nagging your spouse and that doesn’t help the situation. Putting humor into it made it less painful for me so I was able to discuss it better with him.”

Gamers don’t get it
Of course, the gamers out there haven’t been entirely understanding of the plight of the widows. Quintana has dedicated a section of to show the often vitriolic response her site has inspired.

Writes one: Instead of acting like a cranky old skank and bashing your husband’s hobby why don’t you pony up and buy your own PC and actually play it with him??

Writes another: Your man likes video games. Why the hell are you with him then? I’m sure the hobo in the dark alley way in the middle of the city doesn’t play WoW; he’s just your type!

“I think they all think we’re nagging horrible luddites and that’s not true,” says Quintana, who was a web designer before becoming a stay-at-home mom. (Myrow has a degree in computer science and Newberry works as a programmer.) “We’re just normal people who are begging for a little normality in our relationships.”

The widows say that, even more frustrating, are the people who tell them that they should simply leave their gamers and move on. While it seems many a divorce has come from homes divided by gaming, many of the widows say it’s not that simple.

“They say ‘why don’t you get a divorce’ and ‘why did you even marry a gamer?'” says Quintana. “But I didn’t marry a gamer, I married a man. I married somebody I loved.”

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© 2007 MSNBC Interactive

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